Episode 23
Claiming Confidence: The Art of Owning Your Skills and Abilities
Episode Summary
On this episode of A Whole Lotta Shift, host Jen Ingram kicks off a powerful new series on self-confidence. The episode delves into the importance of self-confidence and its impact on various areas of life, including business, decision making, and relationship building. Jen prompts the audience to reflect on their own barriers to self-confidence and challenges them to identify and overcome these obstacles.
Jen discusses common barriers such as fear of failure, imposter syndrome, gender stereotypes, and feeling undeserving. She stresses the significance of self-awareness in cultivating self-confidence and achieving goals. Listeners are encouraged to interact with the prompts and share their experiences in the Facebook group, creating a supportive community where they can learn from one another and grow together.
Part 1 sets the stage for an enlightening series on self-confidence, and listeners can look forward to Part 2, which will focus on overcoming imposter syndrome.
So stay tuned to "A Whole Lotta Shift" as Jen helps you navigate the journey to self-confidence, empowering you to make positive shifts in your life.
About the Host:
Jen is a Dream Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.
Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.
After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.
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Transcript
I just ended this conversation with this person who's trying to tell me that I'll
Speaker:never work in this city again, and I literally can just pull out my
Speaker:phone and make any number of phone calls. Right? because I knew what I
Speaker:was doing. I knew what I had, I knew what I could do.
Speaker:The next day, I had a new contract that actually
Speaker:was better than the one that I had just lost.
Speaker:But I knew what I had to offer, Right? I
Speaker:absolutely believed that I could show up, and I could
Speaker:help them with what they were needing.
Speaker:This is why your confidence met her.
Speaker:Welcome to a whole lot of shift podcast. The podcast
Speaker:for multi passionate women with an entrepreneurial spirit, where we
Speaker:provide inspiration, motivation, and education to help
Speaker:you away from all the should and supposed to's to what's
Speaker:truly possible for you in your business and your life,
Speaker:all on your own terms. You ready, girl? Let's make
Speaker:Shift happen. Hello, and
Speaker:welcome to another episode of a whole lot of shift. I'm your
Speaker:host, Jen Ingram, and I'm so excited that you're here.
Speaker:Today starts the kickoff of our 4 part series on
Speaker:self confidence. And if you're in the whole leadership Facebook
Speaker:group, then you're getting to experience this firsthand
Speaker:live as I livestream this episode. And you're
Speaker:also getting to engage and interact as I share some
Speaker:mindset tricks and hacks with my mon
Speaker:Monday mindset live series. These are just 5 minute Monday
Speaker:mindset lives. and as well as
Speaker:other prompts to kind of help you out during the next 4 weeks
Speaker:as we go live weekly to talk about
Speaker:self So I'm so excited you're here. In this
Speaker:series, the first part, where do we talking about the foundations of self
Speaker:confidence kind of what it is and why it matters in your
Speaker:business. In week 2, we're gonna talk about overcoming
Speaker:impostor syndrome. and we're gonna get that kicked off
Speaker:because it sounds like based on some
Speaker:pool results that I've seen, so many of
Speaker:us are struggling with impostor syndrome, so I wanna make sure that we speak
Speaker:to that. In week 3, we're gonna talk about building confidence
Speaker:through your skills and the process of
Speaker:your achievements. And in the final week,
Speaker:we're gonna talk about how you can maintain and continue to exude
Speaker:an energy of confidence for yourself.
Speaker:So I'm so glad you're here. I'm so excited to get this kicked off.
Speaker:Alright. So let's start out. What what is self
Speaker:confidence? Like, this is a word that we hear about a lot. Right? And
Speaker:so what is it, and why does it matter? Here's the
Speaker:thing. self confidence is not necessarily
Speaker:saying that you don't experience fear
Speaker:when you're trying something new. It doesn't mean
Speaker:that getting outside your comfort zone just comes
Speaker:easily for you, and you're fearless in all of it. It's not quite
Speaker:what self confidence means. Right? Self confidence is more
Speaker:about the belief and trust in
Speaker:self and the belief interest in
Speaker:your abilities to achieve your goals
Speaker:tackle any challenges that come your way
Speaker:and to continue to maintain a positive self
Speaker:view through it all. That's what we're talking
Speaker:about. That's what self confidence is, is that belief
Speaker:and trust in yourself and what you can
Speaker:do. So why the hell does this matter in your business? Well, let's talk about
Speaker:it. If you think about that, your belief and trust in yourself. First of all,
Speaker:you not only need to believe and trust in yourself, but you
Speaker:gotta believe and trust in what it is that you're selling, what it is that
Speaker:you're doing, the services that providing. Because if you don't
Speaker:believe in the offers that you're giving to people, I'm gonna
Speaker:tell you, they're not gonna believe in it either.
Speaker:and they're not gonna wanna buy. This is
Speaker:why self confidence is so important in your business.
Speaker:Not only does it impact that relationship that you're
Speaker:trying to engage in with buyer and seller, it's
Speaker:gonna impact all of your business relationships it
Speaker:can impact your ability to make decisions,
Speaker:business owners and leaders need to be able to
Speaker:make decisions and make them quickly and make a
Speaker:lot of decisions. people who
Speaker:are able to take a step
Speaker:back and quickly run through all the
Speaker:decisions that they need to make and know and have the confidence
Speaker:in themselves to just make those decisions and keep things
Speaker:moving Those are the ones that excel in their
Speaker:business. They don't have the time and not not so much that
Speaker:they don't have the time. They don't create the time for themselves
Speaker:to sit back and wallow in the self
Speaker:doubt about whether or not they're making a good decision whether or not they're
Speaker:making a right decision, whether or not it's perfect, they simply make the
Speaker:decision and move on. Because they know that with each decision that
Speaker:they make, it's not only going to build their confidence,
Speaker:but what it's really doing is the more decisions you make,
Speaker:the better you're going to get at making decisions, and the more that you're
Speaker:going to be able to experience what the good decisions
Speaker:were and what decisions maybe could have been better.
Speaker:But you're never going to be able to experience what decisions you should be
Speaker:making if you're just sitting back contemplating all the time
Speaker:and not making them. So this is why self confidence
Speaker:matters in your decision making. It also matters
Speaker:in your risk taking, because let's be real. In building your
Speaker:business, there's gonna be some risks that you're taking. Right?
Speaker:And if you're joining me live and and you're hearing this, and some of this
Speaker:is resonating with you, I please feel free to leave a
Speaker:comment if you are one of those who has a really tough
Speaker:time making a decision and deciding, oh, I know that I need to
Speaker:change something in my business. And I've known this for a while, and I've been
Speaker:sitting on it for weeks or months because I'm so
Speaker:afraid of making the wrong decision. If that
Speaker:resonates with you, put decision making in the comments. I'd love
Speaker:to hear because I feel like this is something that so many of us
Speaker:struggle with. And I'm gonna share some examples of
Speaker:this here in a little bit. But the relationship building
Speaker:that you're building with your client or your customers, as well as the
Speaker:decision making and your ability to take risks, continued risks
Speaker:in your business, that is all based on your self confidence.
Speaker:Those who can make those decisions and who can
Speaker:display that self confidence tend to
Speaker:have better outcomes when they are in the process of
Speaker:negotiations. This is really important.
Speaker:Self confidence will allow you to show up as a
Speaker:leader and actually create influence
Speaker:over others, it will allow you to
Speaker:bounce back when you experience some sort
Speaker:of adversity or a challenge that comes
Speaker:your way. Right? So these are just some of the
Speaker:things that that are impacted in your business when we're talking
Speaker:about self confidence. And so that's why I wanted to do this four part series
Speaker:for you all because this really does
Speaker:impact your business. So many of us are out
Speaker:there seeking coaches who are talking about business strategy. Right?
Speaker:They're talking about What what kind of social media posting
Speaker:style do you need so that you get the most interaction, you get the most
Speaker:views, and the most like, or what kind of long
Speaker:form sales page do you need? And and what does it need to say? And
Speaker:they're focusing on strategy, strategy, strategy, But
Speaker:what a lot of coaches aren't talking to you about is the fact
Speaker:that so much of what you're doing in your business
Speaker:has to do with your confidence. Because if you're not able to
Speaker:make those decisions and show up as the
Speaker:leader and influence other when you're getting into those conversations with
Speaker:your leads and your potential clients,
Speaker:your long form sales page or how many times you're posting isn't
Speaker:gonna matter. None of that's gonna matter. Your social media
Speaker:strategy doesn't matter if you don't have
Speaker:the confidence to get into the conversation with somebody
Speaker:and show them that you believe in
Speaker:what you're offering, and you believe and trust in yourself.
Speaker:I wanna I wanna give some stories to this because I think
Speaker:I think stories really help kind of
Speaker:solidify what we're learning. Right? So one
Speaker:of the things that when we're talking about belief,
Speaker:we're also talking about the promises that we
Speaker:keep to ourselves. And I'm gonna get into that a little bit more
Speaker:in in week 3 when we're talking about how
Speaker:can we build up the confidence. Right? But one of
Speaker:those things is just keeping the promises to yourself.
Speaker:It could be simple. It could be in your daily habit, it could be that
Speaker:you're going to make your bed every day. It could be that you're gonna go
Speaker:to the gym 4 days a week. It could be that you are going
Speaker:to opt to eat a meal prep
Speaker:from home at least 5 or 6 days a week. It it can be any
Speaker:number of things. But whatever it is that you say that you're going to do,
Speaker:that promise that you make to yourself,
Speaker:the fact that you keep it, is part
Speaker:of building that self confidence. And I'm gonna get into
Speaker:that in week 3 because I really, really wanna speak to
Speaker:what the real game changer was for me in building
Speaker:my own self confidence. And I'm here to tell you, it wasn't
Speaker:about the fact that I started just fearlessly
Speaker:doing things. There was a lot of fear, but the number one
Speaker:thing was that I got really freaking consistent.
Speaker:and I did what I said I was going to do.
Speaker:So I want to talk a little bit real quick, I want to I want
Speaker:to share a story and and why this this is such a
Speaker:big thing. Back several years ago, I wanna say
Speaker:2013, I was doing freelancing work. I was doing bookkeeping. and some
Speaker:other kinda side gigs, some v VA work, what have
Speaker:you. And I had gotten into a
Speaker:contract with a business owner who You know, unfortunately,
Speaker:for this business owner, they had had some really bad experiences
Speaker:with some prior bookkeepers, and they unfortunately had
Speaker:even experienced theft. Right?
Speaker:So when they went to sign the contract with me,
Speaker:There was a lot of stories with this business
Speaker:owner that he had, and a lot of mindset around
Speaker:scarcity, he was really, really afraid that he was gonna get screwed over
Speaker:again. And I get it. Right? So
Speaker:He was pretty insistent that even though obviously we had
Speaker:a contract, I was not an employee, he asked that I
Speaker:work out of the office, He asked that I use his version
Speaker:of QuickBooks on a computer that he owned in his office,
Speaker:etcetera. I didn't love it, but I agreed to
Speaker:it because in some aspects, it did save me some money. It was one less
Speaker:account on my QuickBooks, and it was fine.
Speaker:So anyways, I had I was there. I had
Speaker:been there for several months. Things were were going okay. they
Speaker:were great. They were asking me to take on some additional tasks, which,
Speaker:again, I didn't mind. I was serving as somewhat of
Speaker:a manager for all of the project managers, which if
Speaker:if you don't know, I in my day job, I am a
Speaker:project manager And so this was one of
Speaker:my very early experiences, I
Speaker:guess, you could say, with project management. But this was with marketing project
Speaker:management very different than than what I do today and very
Speaker:different from my first introduction to project
Speaker:management back in 5 when I was
Speaker:helping with remodeling and building new
Speaker:government offices for the local government. Anyways
Speaker:so I you know, I didn't mind taking on those additional tasks
Speaker:that weren't just bookkeeping tasks. I mean, I'll charge you for whatever hours
Speaker:I need to charge you. Right? I will gladly invoice you at the end of
Speaker:the month for whatever additional work I may be doing. And
Speaker:so the problem was, again,
Speaker:they wanted me in the office and, you know, past a time in
Speaker:which I felt comfortable, I part of the reason why I was doing freelancing was
Speaker:because I needed to be available for my son, and I needed to be there
Speaker:for school pickup. And, you know and I I had other
Speaker:responsibilities. And that was one of the things that I
Speaker:enjoyed about freelancing.
Speaker:And so long story short, I had, like,
Speaker:frankly any good business owner should do even if you are
Speaker:in a really good contract, you should
Speaker:always still be prospecting. You don't ever wanna stop
Speaker:marketing yourself. k? I had
Speaker:been in talks with some other opportunities with some
Speaker:other business owners. And in that journey,
Speaker:I came across a business owner in which there was definitely a conflict of
Speaker:of interest. I did not realize that this was somebody who was providing
Speaker:services to the business owner that I
Speaker:was showing up at at his office. And so
Speaker:very long story short, You know, she approached me and said, hey, are you aware
Speaker:that there's kind of a conflict of interest here, and when she brought it up,
Speaker:but I said, oh, you know, okay. Well, 1st
Speaker:and foremost, loyalty is one
Speaker:of the values that I hold very strongly. So
Speaker:This is something that I will need to discuss with said
Speaker:business owner because even if
Speaker:we are able to to kind of go
Speaker:outside of this potential conflict of interest, obviously, I'm
Speaker:not fixing to leave anybody high and dry. That's just not the person that I
Speaker:am. Loyalty is very important to me.
Speaker:Loyalty and honesty, So I
Speaker:I knew that he was traveling for the next week,
Speaker:so I did go ahead and have a conversation
Speaker:with his vice president because I was like, hey, I want it to be
Speaker:made clear. I had I made a connection. We started talking about a
Speaker:contract and services. and come to find out there is some
Speaker:conflict of interest here in the work that they're doing for you and the work
Speaker:that I'm doing for you. And so very long story short, what I didn't
Speaker:know was that the that networking connection I had
Speaker:just made went ahead, even though she knew he was traveling, she
Speaker:reached out to him directly on his cell phone. and let him
Speaker:know that we had been in talks, etcetera. And, unfortunately,
Speaker:for me, due to the fear of what he had
Speaker:experienced previously with somebody stealing from him,
Speaker:and he was very upset. And so
Speaker:when upon his return from travel, you know, he pulled me into the office,
Speaker:let me know that my contract was ending. how upset he
Speaker:was. He no longer believed the invoices that
Speaker:I was providing and wanted to see details, which, of course,
Speaker:I said Great. I'm logging in to your
Speaker:computer in your office that I need a key to, I have to
Speaker:use your QuickBooks login for and your Windows
Speaker:login, your network login, you can see when I log in to your
Speaker:network, your IT guy can look at computer and
Speaker:see exactly what I did for every hour.
Speaker:You know, I know me. I know that I'm
Speaker:honest. I know that I'm loyal. I know who I am. I know
Speaker:what I've done, and I know what I've not done.
Speaker:If you feel you need to challenge the invoices, you
Speaker:have everything that you need to find to
Speaker:validate those right here in your own office. Right?
Speaker:Very long story short. He did not like that response and
Speaker:made it clear to me that he would let all of
Speaker:his other connections in town, all the
Speaker:other business owner connections that he had no to
Speaker:Never go into a contract with me, to not hire me for any services,
Speaker:and he would make darn sure that I did not work again in this
Speaker:city. And, obviously,
Speaker:that was I mean, it was upsetting. And I have to say as
Speaker:this this wasn't just being said, this was being, like,
Speaker:yelled very angrily. His face was bright red.
Speaker:I was just kind of in shock
Speaker:that this was the conversation that was even being had because I really
Speaker:felt like I had done everything I could do. I had
Speaker:been completely transparent. I immediately, when I
Speaker:realized who I was talking to and where the conversation was going,
Speaker:I notified them. You know, this there was no
Speaker:wrongdoing here. Okay? So then they
Speaker:were like, well, we need to escort you off
Speaker:the premises. And I was like, seriously? Okay. Now this is
Speaker:like a ten person office. Okay? I was
Speaker:like, okay. Well, so let me but that's cool. I
Speaker:can go out. I can get my car. In my car, I have the key
Speaker:card to the parking garage. So I'll need to bring my car back
Speaker:around, park on the street, and bring you the key card, and they were like,
Speaker:no. We're going to escort you all the way to your car
Speaker:You'll get your garage key card out of your car, you'll give
Speaker:that to us. We will meet you down at the garage exit to
Speaker:swipe your key card so that you can leave.
Speaker:Okay. Fine. Now mind you, this parking garage is a
Speaker:city block down and then across a main street,
Speaker:and then on, like, the we had to park on, like, the 4th or 5th
Speaker:floor. And I'm just like, oh, and it was raining. It
Speaker:was wintertime, and it was raining. And I was like,
Speaker:You're gonna walk me all the way to I was like, just
Speaker:look. There's I'm not trying to steal anything here. I will
Speaker:bring your key back in, like, 2 minutes. Nope.
Speaker:Absolutely not. Okay. Cool. So he has
Speaker:his vice president, a female, walk me out to my car, etcetera,
Speaker:Now here's where this is important. Here's where the
Speaker:confidence comes into play. Right? I
Speaker:had absolute belief and trust
Speaker:in what I was doing, what I had done, what I had not
Speaker:done, and what I had to offer. I also
Speaker:had absolute belief and trust in
Speaker:the network I had already been doing at to that point
Speaker:and the fact that I simply had
Speaker:managed to get myself into a little bit of a
Speaker:networking circle that didn't play out in my
Speaker:favor. Okay?
Speaker:So as I was being escorted to the garage, it
Speaker:was a long freaking walk. Okay? And I thought,
Speaker:I need to, you know, I this was a big contract for
Speaker:me. I need to replace this and quickly.
Speaker:And I already knew some conversations that I was in, and I'm but I
Speaker:was holding these people off, I honestly was kind of
Speaker:lacking and being very responsive because, again, I had a pretty solid
Speaker:contract. Right? So As I'm in the
Speaker:parking garage elevator with this VP,
Speaker:I'm calling my contacts. Yeah. Hey. You know, we
Speaker:talked we talked last week. Well, blah, blah. Are you still looking for a bookkeeper?
Speaker:How can I help you? Are you start making phone calls?
Speaker:And I sure enough get somebody who's like, oh my gosh. I'm so glad you
Speaker:called me back because, actually, I thought I
Speaker:had a bookkeeper, and as of this morning, I might not. Can
Speaker:I call you back this afternoon? Sure. Not a problem.
Speaker:Give me a callback. I'll let you know if I can help.
Speaker:And I was laughing because I'm thinking to myself, I
Speaker:just ended this conversation with this person who's trying to tell me that I'll never
Speaker:work in this city again, and I literally can just pull out my phone and
Speaker:make any number of phone calls. Right? because I knew what I was
Speaker:doing. I knew what I had. I knew what I could do.
Speaker:The next day, I had a new contract that actually
Speaker:was better than the one that I had just lost.
Speaker:But I knew what I had to offer, Right? I
Speaker:absolutely believed that I could show up, and I could
Speaker:help them with what they were needing.
Speaker:This is why your confidence mattered. I could have sat there and
Speaker:let this person completely tear me down and
Speaker:let this person tear down my belief and
Speaker:trust and suddenly believed that sure enough,
Speaker:I was never gonna work as any kind of bookkeeper in this town again
Speaker:and then end up trusting him that he's gonna follow through on his word
Speaker:and and call all his connections about me, which was
Speaker:frankly a little bullshit. But right?
Speaker:So I wanted to I've just I wanted to share that with you. This
Speaker:is about knowing who you
Speaker:are, and knowing that you can
Speaker:continue to persevere. k? So what
Speaker:are some of the barriers that you're gonna run into? Well, You're gonna run into
Speaker:some situations like what I just described. Right? Unfortunately, I thought I
Speaker:was just continuing to network in my business, I ran into
Speaker:a situation that got really sticky, really quick, and and I lost
Speaker:I lost what I thought was a decent contract, and that
Speaker:sucked and was scary. As a single mom, that was that was
Speaker:scary. Some other things, though. Again and I I
Speaker:honestly believe this. I know that this could be up for controversy,
Speaker:but I honestly believe this.
Speaker:I believe that the way
Speaker:He reacted, and the way he treated me
Speaker:absolutely had to do with the fact that I was a woman I don't think
Speaker:that conversation would have totally gone the same way if I had been a man.
Speaker:I really don't. No. I could be way wrong. I could be way wrong. This
Speaker:guy could just be a super hot head, which I do think he
Speaker:is. But I do wanna say one of the barriers that
Speaker:we encounter in self confidence is some of our
Speaker:gender stereotypes. Right? We've kind of always
Speaker:been led to believe that, you know, women
Speaker:Women aren't you know, women don't make as much. You know,
Speaker:women don't don't have the confidence to to
Speaker:show up and lead the way that met the way that men do. Women don't
Speaker:take on certain roles or positions. Right? So there's
Speaker:First of all, there's all those kind of stereotypes that tend to kind of
Speaker:keep us small. There's fear of
Speaker:failure. There's impostor syndrome.
Speaker:There's oh my gosh. All all sorts of things
Speaker:that can hold you back. oh, one of the things I
Speaker:forgot about, the other thing that can hold you back,
Speaker:is this belief that you're getting
Speaker:what you deserve Like, all of
Speaker:the external results that you're seeing are
Speaker:based on what you believe you're worth,
Speaker:and what you think you deserve. Right?
Speaker:So in other words, even if you
Speaker:are experience something in which you're doing really well and you're winning, you're
Speaker:still thinking to yourself, is this real?
Speaker:Is this really happening for me? Like, do people
Speaker:see that I actually don't know what the hell I'm doing right now? Right? Like,
Speaker:you kind of have this this this thought, this really
Speaker:tricky thought that says, I'm only I'm
Speaker:getting what I deserve. And
Speaker:so I can't, you know, I
Speaker:can't make a lot of money or I can't do this or
Speaker:that because I've never experienced that
Speaker:before, or because I'm not as
Speaker:good as someone else. Right? Like, we kind of have
Speaker:these tricky thoughts that think, well, I mean, I I I guess I
Speaker:got I got what I've earned before. So that's where
Speaker:I'm at. And it gets really tricky with us not even
Speaker:believing that we're winning when we're winning.
Speaker:Right? I'm curious what you think. If you're in the group, I'm super
Speaker:curious. What what are some of the areas
Speaker:in your business or your life where you feel like? Yeah.
Speaker:I'm really confident. Like I said earlier, I know what my
Speaker:values are. I know that If
Speaker:I say I'm gonna do something, I'm gonna do it. Now it might take me
Speaker:a little while, but I'm going to do it. I know that I am
Speaker:loyal. I know that I'm honest. and transparent. Like, these are the
Speaker:solid things because these are my values. I am a 1000%
Speaker:confident in that. I'm a 1000% confident in And
Speaker:when I say to you, look, here's how I can
Speaker:here's how I can assist. I I am saying that
Speaker:from a place of absolute belief. So I'm
Speaker:curious. Share with me. And if you're if you're not watching this
Speaker:live, I want you to just take a step back. Maybe you can journal on
Speaker:it or think about it. Where are some of the areas where you feel most
Speaker:confident, and where are some of the areas where you feel least confident?
Speaker:And when you're thinking about those, Why is that? What is
Speaker:the barrier that's keeping you
Speaker:feeling that way? What are some of the barriers that you've encountered
Speaker:in your in your journey. So I'm curious and
Speaker:super curious as you're all thinking back through what
Speaker:are some of the ways in which you lack self confidence
Speaker:or you feel most confident
Speaker:And what were the barriers that created that?
Speaker:If you're in the Facebook group, Earlier this week, one of the things that
Speaker:I asked you was to think about some of the accomplishments that you had
Speaker:in throughout the week in which you had feelings
Speaker:of self confidence. And part of the reason why I was asking about
Speaker:that was because the self confidence isn't built
Speaker:in the achievement or the accomplishment,
Speaker:it's built in the process. and we're gonna get into
Speaker:that in week 3. So I would love for
Speaker:you to if you're in the group,
Speaker:Tell me some things that you feel really confident about right now in
Speaker:your business or your life, and tell me something that you don't feel
Speaker:confident about in your business or your life and what you think
Speaker:your barrier is in relation
Speaker:to that feeling of low self confidence. I'm
Speaker:super, super curious. I'd love for us to start
Speaker:identifying what those barriers are so we can start
Speaker:looking at them and saying, okay. Is this real? Is this just something that we
Speaker:were taught? What you know, what's going on here?
Speaker:because that self awareness if you were in my
Speaker:Monday mindset, that self awareness is one of
Speaker:the foundations to self confidence as well. Because without that self
Speaker:awareness, it's gonna be really difficult to believe and
Speaker:trust in yourself and your ability to achieve your
Speaker:goals that you say you're going to achieve.
Speaker:Alright. I think that about wraps it up for
Speaker:part one of our series on self confidence. I hope
Speaker:that you I hope that you really enjoyed this. because today, we
Speaker:know we basically talked about, okay, what is self confidence? Why it
Speaker:matters in your business? How it can impact your
Speaker:decision making, it can impact your relationship building,
Speaker:the importance of you believing in what
Speaker:you are offering and who you are
Speaker:and how that is reflected in your relation shipbuilding and the sales
Speaker:that you're able to make and why that's so important. We also
Speaker:talked about some of the barriers that we
Speaker:might encounter the fear of failure,
Speaker:the impostor syndrome, some of the scarcity mindset,
Speaker:even gender stereotypes, Those all come into
Speaker:play. Even the belief that
Speaker:I can only get what I deserve, and I don't feel like I deserve this.
Speaker:That plays into self confidence as well. And
Speaker:then lastly, if you're in the group, I hope
Speaker:that you do interact with these with the prompts that I've shared
Speaker:earlier in the week in thinking through some of the times in which you
Speaker:felt really confident, and that you'll share an area in
Speaker:which maybe you don't feel confident in your life for business right now, and what
Speaker:some of those barriers are because I want us to start
Speaker:Myth busting, if you will, some of those
Speaker:barriers so that we can start just getting them crushed
Speaker:out. Alright. Thank you all for joining.
Speaker:And if you're not in the Facebook group, get your butt over here,
Speaker:and we will see you next week for part 2, which will
Speaker:be about overcoming impostor syndrome.
Speaker:So I hope that you'll join me for part 2. Until next
Speaker:time, keep making Shift happen.
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