Episode 25
Reclaiming Bitch: The Power of Assertive Confidence
Episode Summary
On this episode of A Whole Lotta Shift, host Jen Ingram dives into the power of assertive confidence and reclaiming the term "bitch." She emphasizes the importance of using "I" statements, learning to say no without guilt, and setting personal and professional boundaries. Jen shares a personal story of a time when she was asserting herself with confidence to advance her career and gain autonomy, proving that being assertive doesn't mean being disrespectful.
By practicing these strategies, listeners can gain the confidence to become stronger decision-makers and leaders in all aspects of life. Jen also encourages listeners to share their experiences and challenges in establishing boundaries, as it can lead to personal and professional growth.
Tune in to this episode as Jen explores the misconception that assertive women are seen as "bitches" and provides valuable insights on developing assertiveness in communication and decision-making.
About the Host:
Jen is a Dream Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.
Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.
After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.
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But I gotta tell you, if you don't establish those boundaries
Speaker:for yourself and make those boundaries clear.
Speaker:That feeling that you're getting walked all over, that feeling
Speaker:of I'm not being heard that feeling of I feel like
Speaker:nobody is listening to me is just gonna continue because
Speaker:there's no boundaries that have been set that have that say
Speaker:This is okay, and this is not okay. This is a boundary
Speaker:for me. It's really important.
Speaker:Welcome to a whole lot of Shift podcast. The
Speaker:podcast for multi passionate women with an entrepreneurial spirit,
Speaker:where we provide inspiration, motivation, and education to
Speaker:help you shift away from all the shoulds and post twos to
Speaker:what's truly possible for you in your business and your
Speaker:life, all on your own terms. You ready,
Speaker:girl? Let's make Shift happen.
Speaker:Hello. Welcome to another episode of a whole lot of Shift,
Speaker:Thank you for joining. If you're joining in the Facebook group today, please be
Speaker:sure to say hello, and we are kicking off
Speaker:part 3 in our confidence series today. So I'm super
Speaker:excited to get this kicked off because today
Speaker:is about reclaiming the word bitch.
Speaker:Right? And having that power to be
Speaker:assertive with confidence and
Speaker:realize that an assertive woman is not a bitch.
Speaker:So we're kinda here to display that myth. If you were in the group, I
Speaker:had posted something prior to prior to today's copy chat,
Speaker:saying that it really, really irritates me what a woman is
Speaker:expressing herself or she's being assertive in her needs or wants or what have
Speaker:you, and somebody tries to claim then that she'd been a bitch and
Speaker:like, no. These are two different things. two very different things, and
Speaker:I think it's important for us to talk about the fact that you don't have
Speaker:to be quote unquote a bitch to be seen or heard.
Speaker:Right? So that's kind of what we're gonna get kicked off today. I'm going to
Speaker:share with you guys some some tips and some strategies
Speaker:first. And then we're gonna when I get into a story that I think
Speaker:is gonna be really helpful for you, I have a story to share about one
Speaker:of the first times when I truly asserted myself with
Speaker:absolute confidence, and it really was something that
Speaker:was incredibly pivotal in my career and
Speaker:helped me transition my career to where I really wanted to
Speaker:go and help me kind of set up my
Speaker:plan to get out, if you will. So I think you guys are gonna
Speaker:like the story, but I'm gonna start first just kind of talking
Speaker:about What it means to be assertive, what it means to be assertive with
Speaker:confidence, and maybe some strategies or some tips to be thinking about as
Speaker:you're trying to to feel confident and assertive.
Speaker:Right? So I already kind of said that I really hate
Speaker:when a woman is being assertive, and it's assumed and that she's being
Speaker:She's being a bitch. It's just it's such a misconception, and I really
Speaker:think it comes down to in
Speaker:society, it's like we aren't used to
Speaker:women fully confidently expressing themselves.
Speaker:And we've been told for, at least,
Speaker:as a woman who was once a young girl, was told her full
Speaker:wife you know, quote unquote, being nice. And
Speaker:usually being nice meant sitting down,
Speaker:being quiet, not being seen, heard, making
Speaker:yourself small, you kinda stood in the corner, you did this little
Speaker:thing. Right? Being assertive doesn't
Speaker:mean you're being bitchy. You're simply starting to take up the space
Speaker:that you deserve, the space that you're worth as a human
Speaker:being, and expressing your needs and your wants confidently.
Speaker:And you can do that and be respectful of others, and that's simply being assertive.
Speaker:It's not being bitchy. So, anyway, This is really important when
Speaker:we think about our business because this is really
Speaker:gonna help you gain confidence as you start
Speaker:kind of practicing how to assert yourself and how to really speak
Speaker:your mind. But it's gonna help you gain your confidence
Speaker:in in how you talk with others, but
Speaker:also the decisions that you make, right? Because it's gonna
Speaker:start becoming really clear for you, the decisions that you need to make
Speaker:once you start expressing what your thoughts and your ideas and your
Speaker:feelings are, the clarity for those decisions is
Speaker:gonna come through that process So that's why I'm kind of
Speaker:taking you guys through this whole process of the confident series because
Speaker:this absolutely relates to you and how you're
Speaker:conducting your business. Alright. So I kinda wanna talk a little
Speaker:bit about some of the strategies. Some of the things to think about
Speaker:when we're talking about being assertive. The first one that I
Speaker:want you to think about is first one I want you to think about is
Speaker:using more i statements. In other words, like,
Speaker:I think or I feel or
Speaker:here are, you know, here are my thoughts. And the reason
Speaker:that this becomes important is is 1, your thoughts
Speaker:and ideas are valid, and they deserve to be expressed,
Speaker:2, if it's a situation of conflict,
Speaker:you know, a a relationship conflict, We
Speaker:definitely want to make sure that you're expressing your
Speaker:feelings, your emotions as they relate to you, and not
Speaker:what the other person has done. You should be expressing
Speaker:how you feel not
Speaker:what you perceive the other person has done and what you're assuming
Speaker:the other person must have bought. You can only
Speaker:hold yourself accountable for your own thoughts, your own actions, your
Speaker:own feeling. So this is where it becomes important that you're using
Speaker:I statements, and you're saying, I think, I feel, and we're
Speaker:just using these examples. But listen, this doesn't even this
Speaker:doesn't just equate to those relationships in using those I statements.
Speaker:Right? I think this happens just quite simply in our careers is women
Speaker:sitting in conference rooms with men, and how many times do
Speaker:you have this really great idea, and maybe you don't
Speaker:express it or even when you do, you know, it kind of
Speaker:express maybe timidly or because you're just You're
Speaker:convinced nobody's gonna think this is a good idea. I don't even think I should
Speaker:say anything, you know, etcetera, etcetera.
Speaker:With practice, there's no reason that you can't show up in
Speaker:those situations. And very clearly
Speaker:and and and here's what becomes important. Right? that you're just being direct,
Speaker:transparent, honest, and saying your thoughts tonight and
Speaker:your ideas. There's no If not that somebody else's idea is a
Speaker:bad idea, you're simply stating very clearly, concisely
Speaker:what your idea is. And I can promise you
Speaker:that the more that you do that over time,
Speaker:the more confidence you're gonna get around it and the easier it's
Speaker:going to become for you, and again, that's going to build up the
Speaker:confidence that you need for you to become a better decision
Speaker:maker because being a strong decision maker is
Speaker:what helps you make become a strong leader in both your
Speaker:life, your business, your career, all the areas.
Speaker:Okay? Using i statements, that's number 1. Learning to say
Speaker:no. If you followed me for a while at all wanted things that
Speaker:I think I've posted a few times is no is a complete sentence.
Speaker:It doesn't have to be oh my gosh. I'm really sorry. I
Speaker:think, you know, I just I have a lot going on, and so I don't
Speaker:think I wanna be able to do that. Absolutely not.
Speaker:No is a complete thing. You don't have to explain
Speaker:yourself to every single person when they've asked you to do something. You can simply
Speaker:say no, I can tell you that I have some friends in my life who
Speaker:are just very direct, and and they
Speaker:definitely exude this example of just saying no
Speaker:As the receiver of that, I really freaking
Speaker:appreciate it. Right? It makes life so simple. It's like, hey. Oh my gosh.
Speaker:This sounds so cool. You wanna do this? No. No. Sometimes, I'm
Speaker:like, okay. But it's clear. They're just like,
Speaker:you know, not really my thing. No. Done. The conversation's
Speaker:done. Like, I'm not offended. Cool.
Speaker:It makes life so much simpler instead of there being like this
Speaker:wishy washy kind of conversation, no
Speaker:is a complete sentence, and you get to say no. That's really a
Speaker:part of setting up your boundaries. I'm gonna get to that in a minute. But
Speaker:it's okay to say no and not feel guilty,
Speaker:and it's okay to say no and not have to feel like you have to
Speaker:explain yourself to someone else.
Speaker:That's that's really important. Strategy 3,
Speaker:I kind of already touched on this just a little express
Speaker:your your emotions openly, honestly, transparently. It's not a sign of
Speaker:weakness It's really not. It's
Speaker:about you being able to say, hey, here's how this
Speaker:scenario impacted me, and now I feel You know, maybe
Speaker:I I now have some some distrust here in this relationship
Speaker:and, you know, etcetera. Whatever that is,
Speaker:those feelings You can just be transparent
Speaker:and honest, but just be clear about them. I know I keep repeating that one,
Speaker:but expressing your emotions and being open about that is
Speaker:also super important. It's also going to
Speaker:really help you have better relationships, whether
Speaker:that be personal relationships, business relationships, if
Speaker:you're openly able to say hey. I really feel
Speaker:like right now that's not the path I'm gonna go down in my business because
Speaker:I feel like that's gonna be too much. Or, you know,
Speaker:Whatever your thoughts or feelings are, you get to just express those, and
Speaker:that gets to be it. You also don't have to come up with 50,000,000
Speaker:excuses. You don't have to say, you know what? This just feels
Speaker:like a bad idea to me. I'm a highly intuitive person, and I
Speaker:can tell you that if there's something that I'm working on and it just to
Speaker:feel itchy, and it starts to feel like I don't know. Like,
Speaker:I'm pushing. I have zero problems
Speaker:just saying, you know what? This just doesn't feel right. I'm doing it.
Speaker:Not doing it. And that's okay. That is my feeling. My feeling is it doesn't
Speaker:feel right. Like in my gut? It's not there.
Speaker:That was tip number 4, excuse me, 3.
Speaker:The first one was using i statements. learning to say no,
Speaker:expressing your feelings or emotions clearly and openly.
Speaker:And the last one, that I touched on is setting personal
Speaker:boundaries for yourself. This is a way that you can be assertive,
Speaker:because Setting up your personal boundaries, and knowing
Speaker:what they are is also going to make the
Speaker:other strategies that I've given you a lot simpler to
Speaker:do. So in other words, let me use this as a small
Speaker:example, my gym time. Like, that's a nonnegotiable
Speaker:for me. I go to tick boxing every day, and I'd go to the 515
Speaker:class, so that means I leave my house at, like, 445,
Speaker:period. period.
Speaker:I had somebody ask me something. I think it was 2 days ago, and they
Speaker:were like, hey. Can you do this? And I said, I will take a
Speaker:look at it after kickboxing. That's my
Speaker:boundary that I'm setting. That's my nonnegotiable. It's
Speaker:important to me. I can't look at that right now.
Speaker:However, when I get back from class, happy to take a look and
Speaker:and and go through your message and and see how I can be
Speaker:of assistance. That's it. When you start
Speaker:setting those boundaries of
Speaker:here is here's what's important to me. And
Speaker:here's my negotiable. Here's my non negotiables. And you gain clarity
Speaker:on what those are for you We asked this
Speaker:question earlier in the week in the group about, what are some of those
Speaker:things that you do every day that is a nonnegotiable
Speaker:for you and several of you in in the
Speaker:Facebook group had posted, you know, that you've got some definite routines
Speaker:that are really important to you that you stick to every day. So
Speaker:creating that boundary for yourself, being able to say no to
Speaker:others when they start when they may be trying to encroach on that boundary is
Speaker:really, really important. simply being assertive, and you're being
Speaker:confident in what you need. This is what's important. Because
Speaker:you've better know what you need so that you can perform
Speaker:at an optimum level. Right? You are
Speaker:going to have to know when you're your best. and part
Speaker:of that is created through the boundaries that you create.
Speaker:But I gotta tell you, if you don't establish those boundaries
Speaker:for yourself, and make those boundaries clear?
Speaker:That feeling that you're getting walked all over that
Speaker:feeling of I'm not being heard, that feeling of
Speaker:I feel like nobody is listening to me is just gonna continue.
Speaker:because there's no boundaries that have been set that have that say,
Speaker:this is okay, and this is not okay. This is a
Speaker:boundary for me. it's really important.
Speaker:So those are my top 4 strategies.
Speaker:Number 1, use your eye statement. Number 2, let
Speaker:no be a complacent. Please let no be a complacent. You
Speaker:can say no, and you don't have to feel guilty.
Speaker:express your emotions openly, honestly, clearly,
Speaker:and set boundaries for yourself. These
Speaker:are super important. It's going to make what feels like you're
Speaker:being assertive or I think what maybe previously
Speaker:was conceived as being a bitch is gonna make it so much
Speaker:easier and so much clearer when you start practicing
Speaker:each of these things. So I'm kind of curious if you feel like
Speaker:if you're in listening to this and you're in the group, if you'll just
Speaker:share with me if there's something where you feel like, yeah. I haven't been
Speaker:very good at either establishing that boundary or saying
Speaker:no or anything else. If you feel like dropping that into the comments
Speaker:and super curious likely if it's an issue for you. It's it's one
Speaker:for somebody else as well. Maybe it's about family work. Who
Speaker:knows? Right? Finances? Yeah.
Speaker:I'm super super curious because here's thing. I'd love
Speaker:to hear from you guys ways in which you feel like you
Speaker:could practice or start incorporating some of these tips into your
Speaker:everyday life. Because if you start incorporating them into your everyday life,
Speaker:it can be that much simpler to just incorporate them into
Speaker:your business when you're trying to make
Speaker:decisions in your business This is gonna be,
Speaker:like, easy peasy. Right? Alright. So
Speaker:I'm gonna give a little bit of an ex of an example now. I'm gonna
Speaker:tell a little bit of a story, but I think you guys are gonna appreciate
Speaker:this story because this was a really important time in my
Speaker:career And this was the first time where I really
Speaker:felt like I had the confidence to be
Speaker:assertive in my decision and speak it
Speaker:clearly and get what I want.
Speaker:Right? So they're in long story short just several years
Speaker:ago. in the organization that I was in, we had recently,
Speaker:for me personally, I had gone through 2
Speaker:different reorganizations. And through
Speaker:that process, I had basically kind of been my
Speaker:title, my role, my my pay.
Speaker:everything had been shifted around, like, twice, like back to back in the same year,
Speaker:which, by the way, really stinks if you haven't experienced that.
Speaker:So, anyways, I was at a really, really low
Speaker:point. But what I had what I had done to that
Speaker:point was I had said, okay. if they're gonna basically
Speaker:push me back to positions to where
Speaker:I was, and now I'm back to where I was a couple years ago or
Speaker:whatever, I'm gonna make the most of it. Right? I know
Speaker:that I don't have a lot of autonomy with this
Speaker:role, However, I do know that
Speaker:I have opportunities to work with some business
Speaker:leaders And I know that I can start using those
Speaker:interactions and that work to kind
Speaker:of get more experience as a
Speaker:project manager, specifically so that I could get
Speaker:into the role that I want. I knew the area that I wanted to go
Speaker:into was project management for a few reasons. When it was gonna offer me a
Speaker:bit more autonomy, it was a it definitely is a salaried role, you
Speaker:know, your work is very dependent on the projects that you have, which can be
Speaker:good and bad. But I also knew that a project manager was something that
Speaker:off in times for different organizations can be a contract position. It's
Speaker:something that that I was thinking in my mind, hey, I've
Speaker:done freelancing before, maybe this is something I take with me. Let me get this
Speaker:experience. Right? It was it was also
Speaker:something that would have a pretty significant income change for me
Speaker:And I really felt like it was something that I
Speaker:needed to get my career to that next step.
Speaker:so that I had the mental, physical, and
Speaker:financial space to create what I
Speaker:was wanting in my own business. So it was kind of like,
Speaker:I I needed to make it to that next step. So here I was. I
Speaker:had just been gone through 2 different reorganizations.
Speaker:And I oh gosh. I don't remember
Speaker:when it was. Anyways, long story short, I
Speaker:was asked if I would take yet another
Speaker:role. If this had only been I had been re been
Speaker:reorganized maybe 6 months prior. Okay? So here I am. I'm
Speaker:finally figuring out how I can make this
Speaker:position that they've put me in work for me at the
Speaker:time, and I'm kinda I'm going along. You know? I'm starting to do it. I'm
Speaker:like, okay. If this is what it's gonna be, and I'm gonna come in, and
Speaker:I'm gonna kick ass and take me, and I'm gonna be really freaking good at
Speaker:it. And I'm gonna build relationships with all the decision
Speaker:makers. So that when push
Speaker:comes to shove next time, I might have some other opportunities.
Speaker:Right? These are the kind of people I'm gonna start surrounding myself
Speaker:with. strong leaders. So
Speaker:they was presented suddenly with an opportunity, and they wanted me to
Speaker:take yet another position. And in that position,
Speaker:I wasn't going to have as much exposure to working directly
Speaker:with business leaders, the C suite, I mean, I was a
Speaker:little bit, but not a lot. It was somewhat of a
Speaker:lateral roll. Not entirely, but it's not like it was some
Speaker:big bump. really just didn't wanna do it. It wasn't necessarily work that
Speaker:interested me or excited me. Like, it was one of
Speaker:those things maybe. If it had been a few years prior, I might
Speaker:have jumped at the opportunity. But now that I I understood that role,
Speaker:and I knew where I was at,
Speaker:This opportunity was not it, so they had contacted
Speaker:me and they wanted me to take this role, and so I said, hey. You
Speaker:know, I really appreciate you thinking about me. It's it's really an
Speaker:honor. I but I think I'd like to stay where I'm at.
Speaker:Very long story short, I get an email from the VP of
Speaker:Operations, and she's like, I need to meet with you about this
Speaker:position. I was like, a I don't wanna have to swing myself to
Speaker:this person. Like, I don't want this job. So
Speaker:long story short, I I'm like, you know what? I don't care if you are
Speaker:the VP of Operations. So I go down to her office,
Speaker:and and we meet to talk about this role, and she's like,
Speaker:you know, hey. I I need you to take this role. Now
Speaker:In between this time, in between I got when I got her email saying that
Speaker:she needed to meet with me and me actually meeting with her.
Speaker:I had talked to a couple of folks in C
Speaker:Suite that I had good relationships
Speaker:with, and they couldn't tell me exactly,
Speaker:but they were able to give me enough information where, basically, I
Speaker:knew that they were considering eliminating my role altogether.
Speaker:Now, obviously, they couldn't tell me that directly, but they gave me enough information
Speaker:they were Do you catch my drift? I'm like, I think now I'm hearing you.
Speaker:But I also got a decision to make because, man, that was
Speaker:I I was like, again? What what kind of
Speaker:decisions are being made here? And there was a big part of me
Speaker:that thought, if you had just I I need out, But I was in
Speaker:such a low state of confidence and self
Speaker:belief and trust because because
Speaker:of all of the things that had I had gone through, like, in a very
Speaker:short period of time. Because in addition to these things going
Speaker:on in my career. I had some other things in my personal life that were
Speaker:going on. Like, it was just a really, really bad time. I
Speaker:was at my absolute heaviest weight The depression was horrific.
Speaker:My finances were a disaster, like, just a really bad time, so
Speaker:my confidence level was super low. Okay? So even
Speaker:my confidence to think, oh, you know what? At at this
Speaker:income level, I can just go get another job somewhere else. But then there was
Speaker:that part of me that was like, To learn another role at another company for
Speaker:the same pay, like, why? I now
Speaker:laughed than I ever thought that. But, yeah, at that
Speaker:time, being where I was at, those were my
Speaker:thoughts. Long story short, I go into the VP I'm like, I
Speaker:really don't want this role. I don't think it's going to work for me. She
Speaker:was like, okay. I need to understand why you don't want it. And I just
Speaker:very clearly told her, I said, There's several reasons. I went into project management.
Speaker:I don't believe that this role is one that's going to help me
Speaker:continue to gain the skills and experience that I need to
Speaker:get into the project management department. Also, there
Speaker:is a company rule that you have to be in a position
Speaker:for a solid year before you can be promoted or move into
Speaker:another position. This was in
Speaker:February of that year. I knew that budgets were always
Speaker:created towards the end of the year and oftentimes promotions were made
Speaker:or announced in October or November for effective
Speaker:dates either in December or January. So
Speaker:I knew this, and so I I simply expressed clearly
Speaker:concisely. Hey, it's February if I were to
Speaker:moving to this role now. Technically, it's a promotion,
Speaker:although financially, it wouldn't be much of a promotion at all. It's more of a
Speaker:lateral move for me. but it would be considered a transfer promotion in
Speaker:which that would mean when budgets getting done towards the end of this
Speaker:year and an opportunity comes available in project management because
Speaker:I've seen the growth that we've had the last several months, I wouldn't doubt if
Speaker:we do have a position come open in that department, I wouldn't be able
Speaker:to apply for it. This is really important to me, and that's the next step
Speaker:that I wanna go in my career. And I don't believe that this position is
Speaker:gonna help me get there. Clear, concise,
Speaker:transparent, honest, and no, I
Speaker:don't want this role you're trying to sell me.
Speaker:So what I wasn't prepared for is that she just saw that as
Speaker:some negotiating opportunities, and I had never sat there
Speaker:and negotiated before. Right? I had never felt confident
Speaker:enough to say, yeah. No. I'm still not accepting that. Thanks, but no
Speaker:thanks. So the conversation carried on, and I won't go into all the
Speaker:details. But, you know, she was like, okay. Well, if I would
Speaker:be willing to sign off, if a position comes open, You know, it's February.
Speaker:Position comes open in October, November for project manager. She's like,
Speaker:I will override any document You just bring it to me because
Speaker:there was, like, an internal process you had to go through. She'd like you just
Speaker:let me know. I will sign off on it and overwrite it. I was like,
Speaker:okay. Financially, that still doesn't help
Speaker:me. Again, clearly expressed what my
Speaker:means were. She's like, okay, so then we started
Speaker:into that conversation. You know, started, well, I can give you a 3%
Speaker:bump. eye roll, okay, a 5% bump, still kind
Speaker:of an eye roll, but think, rightly, we kind of went back
Speaker:and forth. By the way, I didn't actually roll my eyes at her. But we
Speaker:went back and forth, but I was clear and concise every single time in what
Speaker:I was needing. And the thing is that was February.
Speaker:I got promoted to project manager in September. I
Speaker:promoted project manager in September It greatly
Speaker:advanced my income. I got about a 20% income
Speaker:increase. I got into a salary position where I started having
Speaker:more autonomy, more flexibility in my schedule,
Speaker:and everything just kind of had appulted from
Speaker:there. But if I hadn't been assertive
Speaker:enough to say no, keep my statement about
Speaker:I, set my boundaries. Here's the
Speaker:schedule I need. Here's the pay that I need. I'm not okay with just
Speaker:being shifted around to 20 departments. Expressing
Speaker:my thoughts and emotions and ideas clearly, I would not
Speaker:have gotten what I needed out of And I would
Speaker:have felt walked all over again, I would have felt like I was being shoved
Speaker:into yet another position that I didn't want to be in,
Speaker:Right? This was the game changer that completely
Speaker:changed the trajectory of my career and
Speaker:what I'm doing now and as a business. Completely
Speaker:changed it, but I never would have had that opportunity if I wouldn't have had
Speaker:the confidence to simply assert myself.
Speaker:So I hope that story helped. The other piece of that story that I think
Speaker:is really important is that I had been working really
Speaker:hard identify the pieces of my career that I needed and what I
Speaker:wanted to do that was going to bring me joy
Speaker:fulfillment make me feel like I was in alignment with what I was doing
Speaker:in my day job, so that I could create something else outside of that.
Speaker:I do wanna give a little bit of shout out to Rachel Williams in
Speaker:our Facebook group. She has posted an event. If you go to the events tab
Speaker:in the group and take a look, I believe she is hosting a master class
Speaker:on Monday talking about the pathway to promotion.
Speaker:And I think for a lot of you who may be trying to figure out,
Speaker:you know, at what point do I try and
Speaker:switch things up in my career so I get out of this scarcity mindset
Speaker:so I get out of this feeling of not feeling confident, you
Speaker:know, change some things up so that I can continue to build my business, or
Speaker:do I just quit my job, whatever it is that you're looking for.
Speaker:Rachel has had, I know some experiences somewhat
Speaker:similar to me in trying to navigate that
Speaker:path between, do I continue to level up my
Speaker:career? Do I continue to level up my business and let that grow? Where's
Speaker:that line? what do I want that to look like? I know that she's
Speaker:got a lot of experience as well, and so I would encourage you to check
Speaker:out that master class if that's where you find yourself And, of
Speaker:course, right here, in the whole leadership Facebook group, and in the whole whole
Speaker:letter shift face, excuse me, whole letter shift podcast, I'll be sharing a
Speaker:lot more And I'll keep sharing the stories because I have to
Speaker:tell you that story. It definitely does not end there
Speaker:while that was a pivotal moment that sent me on the right path and the
Speaker:better trajectory, the hat was just a
Speaker:small stepping stone. At the time, I thought it was the biggest stepping stone,
Speaker:That was just a tiny, tiny piece, but it
Speaker:truly set the stage for everything else that I needed to
Speaker:happen? Okay. Alright, I'm gonna wrap it up. This
Speaker:is it for the Friday copy chat. I'm so glad you guys hopped
Speaker:on. and I'll go back and make sure I can read your comments if you've
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Speaker:of fun, but until then until next week, keep
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