Episode 26
Confidence: The Overlooked Foundation of Business Success
Episode Summary
On this episode of A Whole Lotta Shift, host Jen Ingram dives into the importance of confidence in both business and everyday life. She begins by sharing her own experiences attending a regular networking meeting where participants give speeches or ask for help in their business. Despite some members attending for over 10 years, they still get nervous when giving their talks. However, they continue to show up every week and push through their fears.
In this episode, Jen emphasizes that confidence is often overlooked as a foundational piece when discussing businesses. She explains that even if all the necessary tasks are completed, lacking confidence can lead to struggle.
To further explore the topic of confidence, she provides tips for exuding and maintaining confidence. Jen discusses the role of body language in conveying confidence and engagement in conversations. She mentions that crossing arms and looking down can give off a defensive and unconfident impression, while turning towards the person you're talking to, making eye contact, and sitting or standing tall demonstrate active listening and confidence.
Jen also shares personal experiences in activities such as bungee fitness and pole fitness, where trust and stepping outside of one's comfort zone play a significant role. She shares that challenging herself in activities that challenge her mentally and physically is one of the tricks she uses for quick boosts of confidence in her business.
Throughout the episode, the importance of consistent confidence is emphasized. She discusses the impact of impostor syndrome and comparison on self-worth and encourages listeners to embrace their own value and self-confidence.
In addition to discussing body language and confidence, Jen shares her experiences working with children and the importance of teaching life skills that impact how one presents themselves to the world and how they feel. These seemingly small and silly life skills can make a huge difference in building confidence.
Tune in to this episode of A Whole Lotta Shift to learn more about the relationship between confidence, business, and everyday life, and discover practical tips for exuding confidence in various situations.
About the Host:
Jen is a Dream Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.
Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.
After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.
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You can walk into rooms where you don't know anybody. You can you can go
Speaker:to places you haven't been, and you're able to
Speaker:physically and mentally stretch yourself. And you know
Speaker:what? You didn't die. You didn't
Speaker:die. You could do it again. And getting yourself out of that
Speaker:element helps so much.
Speaker:Welcome to a whole lot of shift podcast. The
Speaker:podcast for multifashionate women with an entrepreneurial spirit
Speaker:where we provide inspiration, motivation, and education to
Speaker:help you shift away from all the shoulds and supposed tos to
Speaker:what's truly possible for you in your business and your
Speaker:life, all on your own terms. You ready,
Speaker:girl? Let's make Shift happen.
Speaker:Hello, and welcome to another episode of a whole lot of shift. I'm
Speaker:so glad you're here. Today is going to be part
Speaker:4 in our confident series, and I'm
Speaker:super excited to get this kicked off. We have been talking
Speaker:for the last 4 weeks about all things related to confidence and
Speaker:how this ties into your business. And, really, your everyday life
Speaker:and creating the life and business that you really
Speaker:want. Right? This is kind of a foundational piece that I
Speaker:think it's missed a lot of times when when we're talking about our businesses, and
Speaker:when we're talking to business coaches, you know, a lot of times, we're so hyper
Speaker:focused on strategy and trying to do all the things that we
Speaker:kind of forget, you could do all the things in the background. But
Speaker:if you don't have the confidence to fully show up,
Speaker:you're gonna struggle, and we don't we don't want people struggling.
Speaker:We're all about making some shift happen here. Alright.
Speaker:So So far, in the series, I just kinda wanna quickly
Speaker:recap. We have talked about the importance of confidence and
Speaker:why that's important and why it's important in business, how it can help make help
Speaker:you make good decisions and make quick decisions as a true
Speaker:business owner does. We have talked about impostor syndrome
Speaker:and that little pesky beef of all joy, which
Speaker:is that of comparison. And the way that we can
Speaker:sometimes feel like we're not enough or that we're not deserving of the
Speaker:accomplishments that we've had, and we sometimes don't even recognize
Speaker:that we've done them. We then talked about
Speaker:in this last week, I gave you guys kind of some
Speaker:tips and strategies on how do we confident
Speaker:and assert yourself without the fear of being
Speaker:labeled a bitch. Right? because that's that's
Speaker:just not what we're not what we're doing. I
Speaker:really I really hate when we get labeled that way when we're really just speaking
Speaker:our mind and and showing up with absolute confidence. So
Speaker:Alright. That was last week. But this week, part 4, we
Speaker:are talking about maintaining and exuding confidence because
Speaker:here's the deal. You've all gone through,
Speaker:you know, this series together. We've we've talked about some affirmations. We
Speaker:came up with some affirmations for you to go through. We've gone back through previous
Speaker:accomplishments and achievements and try to identify where we maybe have
Speaker:downplayed ourselves so that we can start recognizing and
Speaker:becoming more aware of where we may be running into
Speaker:impostor syndrome, and we talked about how we wanna start shifting
Speaker:out of those thoughts and recognizing the you put in the work
Speaker:you had the achievement. Right? So all of those
Speaker:things that we've been talking about, here's the deal. We can't just
Speaker:do them once. I know. It sucks. But
Speaker:confidence is just it's like a muscle that we have
Speaker:constantly exercise. Right? And it's something that we
Speaker:need to do consistently. And I'll tell you consistency
Speaker:is one of the most difficult human behaviors for
Speaker:us to achieve or overcome however you wanna
Speaker:look at it. It's very, very difficult
Speaker:to remain steadily consistent on a regular
Speaker:basis. It's just one of the most difficult human behaviors to master.
Speaker:So that's why it is so difficult for
Speaker:some where they'll feel like, hey. I might go through a period of feeling really
Speaker:and I'll do all these things, and then I stop doing them, and then I
Speaker:don't feel confident anymore. Well, that's exactly why, right? That
Speaker:consistency. You weren't working that muscle all the time.
Speaker:So we're gonna kind of talk today about what that looks like so that
Speaker:we are portraying this confident image of
Speaker:ourselves on a regular basis in all the things that we
Speaker:do so that we don't kind of do that little roller coaster ride.
Speaker:Well, I remember I used to do this, and now I'm terrified.
Speaker:Right? And first of all, I do wanna say that is completely
Speaker:normal, completely normal to say, I know I've done this a
Speaker:million times or I've done this in the past, but now all of a sudden
Speaker:I have these fears. It's really funny. I go to this networking meeting on
Speaker:a regular basis. and every single week, the people in the
Speaker:networking meeting have to stand up and give basically a commercial for
Speaker:their business or, you know, a quick ask of the group, what
Speaker:they're asking for, helping in their business for that week, and it's
Speaker:usually a quick 1 or 2 minute thing. Some of the people in that
Speaker:group have been there for 10 plus years. They've been doing this for years
Speaker:every single week they do the same thing.
Speaker:and I have to tell you almost every single one of
Speaker:them, say, every week, they still
Speaker:get a little bit nervous to stand up and give the
Speaker:talk about their business for the week, and give the ask of the group
Speaker:for the week. They still get nervous about it,
Speaker:but they still show up every week, and they do it every week. And the
Speaker:more that they do it, And that networking meeting, the easier
Speaker:it becomes for them to do it elsewhere, everywhere on a regular
Speaker:basis. Right? So I have to tell you very normal. Very normal.
Speaker:Some of those nerves, I don't know that they ever go away, but the
Speaker:difference is that you guys are walking away with some
Speaker:of the practical strategies to help you show up confidently.
Speaker:That's what I'm gonna kinda talk about today, is really how to
Speaker:appear and portray yourself in a confident manner.
Speaker:One of the things to think about when we're talking about confidence. Right? And
Speaker:just like was giving that example of an networking meeting. It really
Speaker:kind of helps us to send a very clear message to
Speaker:those around us. about our belief in self, our
Speaker:belief in our capabilities, which then implies the belief in
Speaker:our business and what we do and how we serve.
Speaker:Right? So when we are able to portray that
Speaker:confidence, that's sending a super distinct and clear
Speaker:message. Again, you might still get a little nervous. You
Speaker:might have some doubts, totally normal. Everyone
Speaker:does it. successful people. It doesn't matter how long they've been doing it.
Speaker:It's it's just part of the game. So I kinda talked a
Speaker:little bit about how You'll kind of go on a roller coaster ride
Speaker:if you're not regularly practicing it. Right? There's just kind of the
Speaker:cycle of confidence if we wanna say that. First, you start, you know, you
Speaker:start practicing something. You start doing it. You start feeling a little bit better. So
Speaker:then now that you're feeling a bit more confident about it, you do it more.
Speaker:It creates that action. Right? So then the more you do it, the more
Speaker:success that you have, the more success that you have, what happens to your confidence?
Speaker:It goes up. Right? So it's kinda like this big snowball that
Speaker:just keeps going and going. And with each step along the way,
Speaker:each thing that you conquer, each time you conquer a fear or you
Speaker:show it more confidently, that just allows you to move on to
Speaker:the next thing. So this is why all along, I've
Speaker:asked you guys to kinda be thinking about your achievements and your accomplishments.
Speaker:Because when we really get to think about those, even the small
Speaker:ones, guys, these can be tiny, just small
Speaker:things. Okay? It kind of adds to that
Speaker:layer of confidence. And I'll give you an easy
Speaker:example. for me, I have kind
Speaker:of a my one of my non negotiables is my gym time.
Speaker:Right? I have set mentally for myself
Speaker:I'm like, okay. A minimum, I wanna go to the gym 3 days
Speaker:of this week, but I'm really aiming for 5 because
Speaker:I wanna give myself that extra push. I'm aiming for 5. My
Speaker:minimum is 3. And part of the reason why I do that is
Speaker:because I used to get really, really hard on myself if I didn't make
Speaker:it to 5. And I was like, okay. You know what? You still
Speaker:did a lot better than the average person. it went three
Speaker:times. That's still a win. Right? So this is why I
Speaker:say every win no matter how small matters.
Speaker:So most weeks I do make it between 45. 4
Speaker:seems to be my sweet spot. The goal is always a minimum of 3.
Speaker:And one of the things that we don't realize is just that
Speaker:consistent action, a keeping that promise to myself
Speaker:of, hey. I promised myself, I would go at least 3 days
Speaker:this week. And I know that this is still
Speaker:better than the average American truthfully, that that
Speaker:little bit that helps build my confidence. Right? So then when something
Speaker:comes in, And it's my business. It's, oh my gosh, I have to
Speaker:be consistent in a podcast. I have to release an episode every week. Oh,
Speaker:that sounds scary. Oh, that's a commitment. I can sit back
Speaker:and I can go, hold on, you have other
Speaker:commitments that you do with ease. You no longer think twice about
Speaker:it. and you do them a lot more frequently than once a week.
Speaker:Right? It just kind of allows for that
Speaker:additional thought process when we start thinking
Speaker:about how small of a wind can we really
Speaker:be aware of and appreciate? So when I've said
Speaker:throughout the last couple of weeks, you know, think about your achievements and your
Speaker:accomplishments. Hey. I want you to think about them big or small. Did you get
Speaker:up today? Did you go for a walk? Did you go to the gym? Did
Speaker:you do some self care? Believe it or not, all those things
Speaker:help, especially when you're doing them consistently. It helps filled that
Speaker:snowball of confidence. So that's what we're talking about. Alright. Let's get into my top
Speaker:tips because I wanna I wanna make sure I get through these without telling too
Speaker:many stories. You guys know it. I love stories. and I have a lot of
Speaker:stories. And the funny thing about me is that I could
Speaker:literally just have, I don't know, something happened, something random, but I'm
Speaker:like, Oh, no. I can make a whole story about this. This is a story.
Speaker:So, anyways okay. We're gonna get into the practical strategies. I've written down some
Speaker:things. Number 1, to maintain self
Speaker:confidence. Look at your self talk.
Speaker:Positive self talk. I know it sounds silly.
Speaker:We've heard it all the time. Oh, don't be mean to yourself. Right?
Speaker:But it's so true that inner conversation
Speaker:that we have in our minds with ourselves is so important, and
Speaker:it really can have an impact on your on
Speaker:your confidence. So we wanna try and keep those thoughts
Speaker:in the way that we're talking to ourselves or in talking about
Speaker:ourselves out loud, especially try to keep that in a positive light
Speaker:so that when you are feeling some self doubt or
Speaker:fear, anxiety, whatever, You can respond
Speaker:then internally also. Hey. Wait a minute. Is that
Speaker:true? I think that was week 2 where I asked you guys to think about
Speaker:Is that true? Right? And you can remind yourself, wait a
Speaker:minute. I've done this in the past. So positive
Speaker:self talk and really paying attention to your thoughts and your
Speaker:words. If you're if you're feeling like, oh, man, I need to go
Speaker:And I'm gonna use just this networking meeting as an example since I talked about
Speaker:it in the beginning of this this live. I need to go to this
Speaker:networking meeting, and I need to stand. And, oh my god, I I just always
Speaker:look so stupid when I'm up there. That right there. Right? That's
Speaker:that negative thought. Not true. Is it
Speaker:true? It's really not. Were you nervous? Sure. Did
Speaker:you have some fears? Sure. That part can be true, and that's
Speaker:okay. Right? But watching that self talk. So that's number
Speaker:1. Number 2 is to surround
Speaker:yourself with positivity. Surround yourself
Speaker:with positivity. Surround yourself with the people who are going to help
Speaker:influence you in a positive way. surround yourself with the
Speaker:people who are doing things that you're wanting to
Speaker:achieve in your business and in your life so that they can start
Speaker:impacting that confidence in yourself as well.
Speaker:Right? So running yourself with positive
Speaker:people can make such a difference because I can tell you this.
Speaker:You start surrounding yourself with the right people who are confident in
Speaker:what they're doing and are positive. They're positive thinkers.
Speaker:They're positive talkers. They believe in abundance. They don't approach things
Speaker:with scarcity mindset. I guarantee you, they're
Speaker:probably gonna be some of your biggest cheerleaders. And
Speaker:you're gonna get to use that as some of your
Speaker:added strength to continue on with exuding the
Speaker:confidence that you want, because you're gonna have these people that you're surrounded
Speaker:by going No, girl. You're killing it. You're doing amazing.
Speaker:Just like we do right here in the whole lot of shift fit Facebook group.
Speaker:Right? We recognize the things that we're doing when you guys are
Speaker:doing sell yourself Saturday and you're posting all the things that
Speaker:you're that you're doing in your businesses. Like,
Speaker:I love seeing that, and I think others in the group really
Speaker:love it as well because then we get to see all the incredible services that
Speaker:we're providing, and you're surrounded by a group of people who are
Speaker:pumping you up. Alright? So that's number 2. Watch your
Speaker:surroundings and surround yourself with those positive people.
Speaker:I already kinda spoke to this a little bit, but it is really important.
Speaker:Celebrate the small wins. all of them. They don't have to be massive
Speaker:achievements. They can be big. They can be small, but I really
Speaker:would encourage you to pay attention 2, even just
Speaker:some of your small wins. You know? Hey. I you know, my
Speaker:goal for this week was to was post on social
Speaker:media at least once a day, and I did that. Right? Celebrate
Speaker:that. It's really important that you recognize, hey. I did a
Speaker:I did 1% better today than I did yesterday. I
Speaker:think sometimes we forget we're so focused on, like, this big massive
Speaker:goal that we forget that it's really the teeny
Speaker:tiny steps that we're doing all along the way that's really building
Speaker:us up. Right? That small 1% a day is
Speaker:what creates the bigger transformation. So,
Speaker:set and celebrate the small goals, the small wins. Don't forget
Speaker:about those. k. Those are my top 3
Speaker:of how to maintain your confidence. Watch yourself
Speaker:talk, make it positive, Sur yourself with the
Speaker:right people. Surround yourself with those positive people and not
Speaker:abundance mindset. So important. I cannot even stress that
Speaker:enough. I might have to do a whole podcast just about
Speaker:your environment and who's in it
Speaker:because I truly believe that is vital,
Speaker:vital to your success. And there's a
Speaker:whole lot of ways in which
Speaker:Family, God love them, bless them, they wanna protect us,
Speaker:and sometimes they can impact your confidence a
Speaker:little bit. So surround yourself with lots of positive people. So
Speaker:important. That was number 2. And then the third one, Set some of
Speaker:those smaller goals, those small wins, hey, I'm gonna go out on
Speaker:a walk 3 days this week, whatever it is, and celebrate that.
Speaker:Okay? That consistency alone helps prove
Speaker:to yourself when you're thinking about, hey. I don't know I can
Speaker:consistently do this in my business. I don't I don't know if I wanna take
Speaker:that on. It allows you to think back on what you've done. So
Speaker:celebrate the small goals and wins. Okay.
Speaker:So then that's to maintain your confidence. I also
Speaker:wanna talk about some of the little things that we can do to
Speaker:exude confidence. And I really kind of got to thinking about this
Speaker:because for those of you who don't know, and you may have heard it in
Speaker:some of the previous podcast episodes, but A very long
Speaker:time ago. I won't even mention how many years. I worked
Speaker:in direct care with kids. I was a weekend manager at children's
Speaker:home, and I worked with six to twelve year olds specifically. And then out
Speaker:of that, I became a therapeutic foster parent. And I had some foster
Speaker:children in my home for a few years. Anyways, one of the
Speaker:things that we did when I was working in Direct here at the home
Speaker:is is I was heavily coached in trade
Speaker:on on these life skills that we would teach the kids, and one of the
Speaker:important life skills that we would teach them are some of the ones that
Speaker:I'm I'm gonna bring up to you. And they seem
Speaker:small, and some of them might even seem silly, but they
Speaker:make a huge difference in how you are presenting yourself to the
Speaker:world and not just to the world, but also you
Speaker:don't realize how much better you feel when you start
Speaker:to practice them. And so some of these are ones that
Speaker:I used to teach on a regular basis. And so I'm gonna
Speaker:share some of that with you now, the first one. Gross
Speaker:stand up tall, good posture matters. You don't need
Speaker:to slump over or or you know you know
Speaker:who I think about when I think about this? This e this stand tall,
Speaker:If any of you have ever watched old pictures or videos of
Speaker:Princess Diana, when she was still with Charles,
Speaker:if you watch them look closely at her
Speaker:posture and her demeanor, it is
Speaker:when I really started paying attention to this, and once I noticed it, I
Speaker:could not even believe the difference. So there are pictures of her. And when she
Speaker:was with Charles, she would stand next to Charles, and she kinda did, like, this
Speaker:over thing. And I don't know if it was a height thing because she was
Speaker:very tall. But she constantly had her shoulders down, and she
Speaker:was hunched forward, just very poor posture. And then when you look at
Speaker:pictures and videos of her much later after the divorce, etcetera,
Speaker:she is, like, standing tall. Her shoulders are broad.
Speaker:Like, she's she's in a good place for herself.
Speaker:I I don't know if any of you have ever seen that or if you
Speaker:watch what was that show on Netflix? I crown.
Speaker:I love that show. Anyways, I always think about that. Stand
Speaker:tall, good posture makes a huge difference. Believe it or not,
Speaker:Make eye contact is number 2. I know.
Speaker:I'm not the hugest man of making eye contact either. Honestly,
Speaker:Ugh. And sometimes just naturally when I talk,
Speaker:my eyes tend to wander. It has nothing to do with the fact that I'm
Speaker:not being meaningful to the person. But one of the life
Speaker:skills that I used to help teach was that the reason you want to make
Speaker:sure that you're making eye contact with somebody, because it does 2 things.
Speaker:It lets them know that you are truly listening
Speaker:to what they're saying because you're looking them directly in the eye,
Speaker:It also speaks a bit to that what
Speaker:you're saying is is something of importance.
Speaker:Right? When you're taking the time to stop and look directly at
Speaker:somebody and make that eye contact, you've got something
Speaker:important to share. And, again, it speaks to just how you're
Speaker:presenting yourself to the world and the confidence that you wanna exude.
Speaker:So make on contact us number 2, number 3, speak clearly and
Speaker:calmly. Listen, and this is so important, if you need to
Speaker:take a moment before you kind of start into
Speaker:something. Maybe I think it was in week 3 that I talked
Speaker:about, you know, how to be assertive and how you it may
Speaker:be that you're You're in a meeting with several people, and
Speaker:you wanna be able to express yourself or freely express the ideas
Speaker:that you have. And you might need to take a moment Sit
Speaker:back, take a deep breath, gather your thoughts in your
Speaker:mind for a moment, and then speak so that you know that
Speaker:you are speaking clearly and calmly.
Speaker:It's so important. It's going to portray your message in a completely different
Speaker:manner. And you're gonna notice as you're presenting
Speaker:it that that there's a shift in the confidence that you have when you're doing
Speaker:that. So that's number 3. And then number 4, positive
Speaker:body language. I know this kinda sounds silly. Right? But, again,
Speaker:when we're thinking about kind of that hunched over
Speaker:state or that state where we're just not feeling, you know,
Speaker:the most confident. Maybe you're appearing
Speaker:very which the word that I I wanna use. I don't wanna say defensive,
Speaker:but, you know, there's a lot that can go into body language, such as the
Speaker:crossing of the arms, and You know, when you think about body
Speaker:language, let's say you are sitting with somebody and they're sitting next to
Speaker:you and they're having a conversation with you. go ahead and
Speaker:turn your body towards them. Again, allow yourself to then
Speaker:be looking at them, make eye contact
Speaker:sit tall or stand tall, whatever the case may be,
Speaker:and then carry on that conversation. That little
Speaker:bit of body language, turning into somebody, again, it
Speaker:lets them know you are giving them the attention you are
Speaker:listening and or vice versa, you also
Speaker:have something important to say, and it's showing that you have the confidence.
Speaker:The more in which we sit there and we kind of shutter, and our
Speaker:body language speaks of somebody who's always looking down. That's
Speaker:another thing. When you're walking, I want you to think about that. Obviously, we do
Speaker:wanna We do wanna look at what's in front of us when we're
Speaker:walking. But just kind of think about when you're walking into some
Speaker:place, Are you just kind of hunched over looking at the ground, not really looking
Speaker:at anybody, not making eye contact with anybody? Or do you walk
Speaker:in standing tall like you own the place? Like, you
Speaker:own your space in the space around you
Speaker:because you deserve to be there, because you
Speaker:do. and you deserve to take up that space.
Speaker:That's how we wanna be walking into a situation. Hi. I'm
Speaker:here. I'm here because I deserve to be here
Speaker:because I'm worth being here. And that's just kinda something that you
Speaker:need to know within yourself, but that is gonna get portrayed
Speaker:in that body language and how we're holding ourselves. So I
Speaker:know earlier I said stand tall, But I'm just really speaking to
Speaker:the overall body language. How are
Speaker:you how are you walking into a situation? How
Speaker:are you sitting if you are gathered at a at a networking
Speaker:meeting, so forth, and so on? Right? And I especially think it's so
Speaker:in important now, and and we all do it. I'm guilty of it as well,
Speaker:looking at our phones. Oh my gosh.
Speaker:That, for a lot of people, I have to say, I recognize
Speaker:that for a lot of people, at least holding your phone or looking at it
Speaker:when in a situation in which you're anxious can actually be something
Speaker:that might calm you, right, because you kind of get to escape your okay. I'm
Speaker:I'm I'm looking at my phone. I get it. I see a
Speaker:lot of people do that, but I would asked that you just be aware
Speaker:of when you're doing that because you
Speaker:kind of had any again, having your head down, being on
Speaker:your phone is really kind of portraying somebody
Speaker:who's not wanting to interact. And, again, when you're
Speaker:talking about how you're presenting yourself in your business. We wanna be thinking about
Speaker:some of those things. k? So the 4 tips
Speaker:for exuding that confidence There is an I don't know if
Speaker:any of you have ever heard of that whole, like, power pose or creating, like,
Speaker:that that pose for yourself that really lets you, like, stand tall and that
Speaker:super woman feeling or whatever, it works. It
Speaker:works. I might have to I'll share some more on on how to do that.
Speaker:But posture, stand tall,
Speaker:make eye contact, speak clearly and
Speaker:calmly if you need to take a minute grat to teach your thoughts together,
Speaker:take it, and positive body language. Again,
Speaker:if you're talking to somebody sitting next to you, turn into them,
Speaker:how are you holding yourself or carrying yourself when you're walking into a
Speaker:situation? Are you sitting defensively all the time? some of
Speaker:those things can really can really make a difference. I'm curious.
Speaker:What some of what are some of the things that you guys do when you're
Speaker:trying to think of, okay, I wanna show up confidently in this moment. I wanna
Speaker:I wanna appear confidently. What are some of the little tricks that you do? Do
Speaker:you give yourself a pep talk? Do you go look in the mirror You got
Speaker:this bitch. What do you do? I'm curious. Tell me. I've
Speaker:had some coaches tell me, hey. Go look in the mirror. Give yourself a pep
Speaker:talk. That's not totally my jam, but I
Speaker:will say sometimes, especially if I'm, like, going to an
Speaker:event where there's a lot of people and sometimes I anxious
Speaker:if there is a lot of people. I will take the moment while I'm
Speaker:sitting in my car alone to kinda tell myself, okay.
Speaker:You got this. Here is how you're gonna introduce yourself. And sometimes
Speaker:I'll give myself like a little goal. You're gonna introduce yourself to at
Speaker:least ten people. Just ten. Just get the 10 out of the
Speaker:way. And, of course, what happens what happens if you set a
Speaker:small goal even if late, even if I said five people. You're an introduced, you
Speaker:talked five people. What happens when you say 5,
Speaker:you're gonna end up with more than 5. You're absolutely gonna end up with more
Speaker:than 5. So some of these will do a little a little trick like that,
Speaker:but I'm curious. What are some of the tricks that you guys do? I'm curious.
Speaker:This last one, I I went back and forth on whether or not I
Speaker:wanted to add this as one of my primary tips, but I wanna share
Speaker:this. The Other thing that I do to kind of
Speaker:maintain consistent confidence within myself
Speaker:is I consistently try different things. I
Speaker:try new things, and it's typically things that
Speaker:challenge me both mentally and physically
Speaker:Because when I'm able to do that, it's you know,
Speaker:it gets me outside of my element. I'm not I'm
Speaker:not gonna be at a place that I'm familiar with. It's gonna be
Speaker:asking again, it's it's asking me to work some some
Speaker:different muscles that I'm not used to, both physically and mentally. So I'll
Speaker:give you an example. Last summer, when
Speaker:I I was no longer working, and I was working my business full time, and
Speaker:I was I was sitting here, and I was thinking, oh my gosh.
Speaker:I have I need to get out. I I need to start making
Speaker:connections so forth and so on. And so some of the things that I did
Speaker:was I just got out, and I started trying new fitness opportunity I
Speaker:mean, I tried I tried pole fitness. I
Speaker:tried oh, shoot. What was the other one? There's some it was It
Speaker:was a type of yoga. I don't know. And I'll be super serious. I'm not
Speaker:a big yoga person. So that was very different for me. 2 weeks
Speaker:ago, I think it's been 3 weeks now. Just 3 weeks ago, I went and
Speaker:I tried Bungie Fitness. Super funny story. I thought for sure I
Speaker:was gonna absolutely fall in love with Bungie Fitness gonna totally be
Speaker:my jam. Right? Because it's kind of it's it's super active.
Speaker:And, anyways, long story short, I went, and I
Speaker:Didn't love it. It wasn't my GM. But here's the
Speaker:thing. It was completely different. I had to get
Speaker:completely outside of my comfort zone I had to
Speaker:and, man, I experienced the same thing when I did the pool fitness. This is
Speaker:super important. This is why one of the reasons why I
Speaker:love doing this to help me with confidence is
Speaker:because it also requires a whole lot of external
Speaker:trust that we don't always do. So in the bungee
Speaker:fitness, I had to trust the bungees. because we're
Speaker:jumping around. We're we're, you know, we're doing burpees where you're gonna jump up.
Speaker:You're gonna hit the ground, and you have to trust that that bungee is gonna
Speaker:catch you, you're not gonna fall flat on your face when you go to hit
Speaker:the ground. You also have to trust when we would do these things they call
Speaker:flyers. right, where you're, like, running and then you kind of jump up and you
Speaker:fly on the bungees. Again, you have to trust that
Speaker:bungees gonna catch you. I experienced the same thing in the poll
Speaker:fitness. I didn't realize the actual poll
Speaker:terms, And so when you go to hang on it,
Speaker:you have to fully trust in yourself, and you gotta
Speaker:trust the poll, that the poll's gonna hold you and that it's not
Speaker:gonna turn any more than however you move your body.
Speaker:There's ways in which you can move your body that will obviously make it go
Speaker:faster or slower and they teach you all that in the class. But
Speaker:those were just off the top of my head, a couple of times where
Speaker:I really had to get outside my comfort zone I had to trust
Speaker:something that was not myself, that was not just me, and I
Speaker:had to completely trust that whatever was, that it was gonna
Speaker:hold me or whatever I was doing. Right? And I had to
Speaker:I was in a space. I was not at all familiar with. I was surrounded
Speaker:by people I didn't know, had not met.
Speaker:I had to introduce myself and I had to do something I had never
Speaker:tried before. And knowing I had to go in
Speaker:knowing there was a really good chance I was gonna suck at it. I was
Speaker:definitely gonna suck at it, and I really sucked it.
Speaker:But that's okay. I went into it knowing that
Speaker:and being able to laugh about it and walk away, and it it gave me
Speaker:such incredible perspective because now I get to say, okay. You know
Speaker:what? I know that I've tried other things outside of my
Speaker:routine. I know that I can continue to try other things, and it
Speaker:gives me the opportunity to say, when I'm trying something
Speaker:new, hey. Is this something that I might wanna start incorporating into
Speaker:some of my normal habits or routine? Right? So it kind of
Speaker:fulfills multiple purposes when I do that. But that is one thing that
Speaker:I absolutely love to do when I'm thinking about how I want
Speaker:to continue to maintain confidence
Speaker:because it just kind of reaffirms for me
Speaker:hey. You you can do hardship. You can walk into rooms where you
Speaker:don't know anybody. You can you can go to places you haven't been.
Speaker:and you're able to physically and mentally stretch
Speaker:yourself. And you know what? You didn't die.
Speaker:You didn't die. You could do it again. And it just it
Speaker:getting yourself out of that element helps so much. So I
Speaker:would encourage you guys to do that. Please, if you have anything that
Speaker:that you've done recently, we're like, wow. That was really out of my comfort
Speaker:zone. I'd love to hear it because I want you guys to reflect back on
Speaker:those times when you're thinking about confidence. Okay. I think
Speaker:those are I think I'm I think I'm done telling stories, you guys. I'm so
Speaker:sorry. I know I go off on tangent sometimes. But my point is,
Speaker:this confidence thing isn't something that you just do one day and
Speaker:suddenly you're this incredibly competent person, it's a
Speaker:little bit of a a little bit of a journey. honestly.
Speaker:And if you're not regularly using it
Speaker:and regularly flexing that confident muscle,
Speaker:then it's gonna feel more like a roller coaster. And I think we just
Speaker:want it to feel more like a journey. So that's why it's so important to
Speaker:be doing things that can help you really maintain and exude
Speaker:that confidence. So next week
Speaker:is a bonus week. I originally was only gonna have
Speaker:this competent series b for 4 sessions. But as I was going back
Speaker:through my notes, some of the things that we covered I wanted to
Speaker:take the time to really give some better
Speaker:clarity on what I mean when I say making decisions in
Speaker:your business and taking action and being able to move forward, and
Speaker:why confidence is the absolute foundation to
Speaker:that. I wanna I wanna start sharing some some details of that. So
Speaker:next week, week 5 is actually gonna be a bit of a bonus. So I'm
Speaker:super excited for that. I hope that you'll join in and enjoy me for
Speaker:that. By the way, if you're listening to this on the podcast, please know
Speaker:this was being streamed live in the whole lot of Shift Facebook group,
Speaker:and I stream live every Friday or Friday copy
Speaker:chats. And and as part of the series, I've also
Speaker:been streaming live for 5 minutes on Mondays for Monday mindset.
Speaker:So if you're not in the Facebook group, get in here. There's a lot of
Speaker:support, a ton of fun. Sell yourselves Saturday, business tip
Speaker:Tuesday. Oh my gosh. I mean, there's just a lot going on. I
Speaker:hope you all enjoyed part 4 in our series and
Speaker:talking about maintaining and exuding confidence
Speaker:and I can't wait to can't wait to talk to y'all later.
Speaker:Bye. Have a good week. Hey,
Speaker:shifters. Thank you so much for tuning into another episode of a whole lotta
Speaker:ship. If you heard something today that inspired you or resonated with
Speaker:you, please head over to iTunes and leave a review to help others as
Speaker:well. Your review helps me give as much motivation and
Speaker:inspiration as I possibly can. And don't forget, you can catch
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