Episode 27
Unlocking Mindfulness: Strategies to Empower Children and Adults
Episode Summary
Welcome back to another episode of "A Whole Lotta Shift"! In today's episode, we have a very special guest joining us, the incredible Jennifer Fae. Jennifer is a healer and writer, who has a unique perspective on the healing process. We dive deep into the importance of listening and the accumulation of events that contribute to our healing journey. Jennifer shares her recent transformative experience at a retreat in Mexico and emphasizes the power of starting each day with pleasure. We explore the concept of aligning present pleasure with decision-making, rather than solely focusing on future outcomes.
Jennifer will also discuss her passion for writing and her ongoing book projects, including her most recent book release, “My Big Heart”, focused on teaching meditation and mindfulness to kids. Jennifer shares her experience teaching mindfulness, as a teacher in a second-grade classroom, highlighting the immense potential children have for mindfulness practices.
To top it off, Jennifer shares her magical experiences of manifesting her desires and shifting limitations using subtle energies. Trust us, this episode is filled with insightful wisdom and plenty of laughter. So sit back, relax, and get ready for a whole lot of shift with Jennifer Fae!
About the Guest:
Jenn began offering energy healing sessions in 2010. She is certified in many modalities and is a reiki master, advanced theta healer, sound healer, and certified meditation teacher.
Her ultimate mission is to teach and support others to bring more light into their energy field. She believes we came here to vibrate at a frequency that impacts the world around us. This is how we grow as souls and make the greatest impact.
She currently spreads her light through channeled writing on her social media pages, books and in her energy healing sessions.
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soul.infused.writer/
Website: www.jenniferfae.com
Book Release: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCW6W3TP?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420
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About the Host:
Jen is a Dream Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.
Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.
After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.
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Transcript
Jennifer, tell me, what are your two. Truths and one lie?
Speaker:So my life has been bit wild, so I'm curious if
Speaker:anyone will guess. So one is
Speaker:I drove a semi truck and crashed into a gas
Speaker:station route. Two is I
Speaker:was on the front page of a newspaper for
Speaker:leading a laugh job. And three is
Speaker:I got bit by a monkey.
Speaker:Welcome to a whole lot of shift, podcast. The
Speaker:podcast for multi passionate women with an entrepreneurial spirit
Speaker:where we provide inspiration, motivation and education
Speaker:to help you shift away from all the shoulds and supposed tos
Speaker:to what's truly possible for you in your business and your
Speaker:life all on your own terms. You ready,
Speaker:girl? Let's make shift happen.
Speaker:Hello, and welcome to another episode of a Whole Lot of
Speaker:Shift. I am so excited to bring our guest to you all
Speaker:today. I am bringing you Jennifer Faye. And
Speaker:Jennifer is an energy healer and
Speaker:she is someone who I met recently. And when she reached
Speaker:out and she and I connected this last week, I knew that she was
Speaker:somebody that I had to have on the show and bring to all of
Speaker:you. So first, let me just say welcome Jennifer. Excited
Speaker:that you're here. Thank you. I am so excited to be
Speaker:here also. So like I said,
Speaker:Jennifer, she began offering some energy healing way back
Speaker:in 2010. She is certified in several different
Speaker:modalities and she's a Reiki master, an advanced theta
Speaker:healer, sound healer, and a certified meditation
Speaker:teacher. Really her ultimate vision is to teach and
Speaker:support others to bring more light into their energy
Speaker:field. She believes we came here to vibrate on a
Speaker:frequency that impacts the world around us. You guys, I
Speaker:am so excited for her to be on the show. If you've
Speaker:listened to any of my past episodes, then you know how much
Speaker:I talk about the importance of your energy and
Speaker:listening to your intuition and feeling into the power of the universe
Speaker:and all these other things that go into the level that you are
Speaker:vibrating on for your business and your life. And I'm
Speaker:so excited that she's here to share so many amazing things with us.
Speaker:So Jennifer, anything that I missed? Tell us a
Speaker:little bit about yourself. Thank you. I mean,
Speaker:that could be a whole episode in itself. That's probably a lot I
Speaker:could share, but I guess I can say
Speaker:share a perspective that my friends always say. They always kind of call me the
Speaker:fairy. Like oh, fairy friend. They call me the fairy friend.
Speaker:And I am labeled as that
Speaker:because I am a person that really
Speaker:believe, I really truly do believe anything is possible.
Speaker:And I see limitations that people
Speaker:might have or say,
Speaker:and I see them as all things that can be
Speaker:transformed or alchemized using our energetic fields
Speaker:and kind of some of these subtle energies that are behind it.
Speaker:Maybe energies that we're not consciously aware of like our
Speaker:subconscious beliefs or patterns
Speaker:from the past, past traumas emotions that are stuck in the
Speaker:body. There's kind of a lot that can go on in the energetic field.
Speaker:But from my perspective, I think we can shift it and
Speaker:align to really anything that our heart desires and
Speaker:then be aligned to receiving it. So that's kind of
Speaker:why I think that they all call me the fairy, and
Speaker:just because of magical experiences where I
Speaker:created that type of thing in my own life. Yeah, which I can share more
Speaker:about, but yeah, that's a little bit.
Speaker:Yeah. No, it's funny that
Speaker:I'm sure your friends are saying it in a teasing
Speaker:manner, because one of the things that
Speaker:you and I had said even before we started recording was that we really kind
Speaker:of want to. Try to normalize this entire conversation
Speaker:because I think when people start to hear about an energy
Speaker:healer or operating on a certain vibrational
Speaker:frequency, people get a little like, whoa, that sounds a
Speaker:little woo woo, a little out there. Or I have one
Speaker:friend who's always telling me, well, that sounds a little new Age like,
Speaker:okay, well,
Speaker:but it's so true. There was something that you had said to
Speaker:me when we had met previously about
Speaker:just that, our own vibration,
Speaker:like the amount in which it traveled. And I wish I could remember
Speaker:what it was that you shared because it was really powerful to me and
Speaker:my mind just went blank. I think it might have been related to
Speaker:possibly the book and the study with the Heart Math Institute.
Speaker:I don't know if you
Speaker:the Heart Math Institute, they do research related to
Speaker:the heart and brain coherence and
Speaker:they study our energy fields but using science. And
Speaker:so they had found that they looked
Speaker:at the photons in the body, which essentially
Speaker:is light. Like the light we vibrate is really the photons in our
Speaker:body. In certain realms they might call it like your
Speaker:aura or your energetic field and in science they might call it like
Speaker:your photons. And there's all different names, but it's kind of
Speaker:all the same. And so they found that
Speaker:through intentionally focusing on the heart
Speaker:and meditating in a space where you're focused on this heart energy
Speaker:and connecting to that with your intention that
Speaker:the photons in the body,
Speaker:these little balls of light, increase by 5000
Speaker:times. So
Speaker:literally the energy around a person's body,
Speaker:I mean, 5000 times more energy and light
Speaker:just by something as simple as focusing on the
Speaker:heart and our intention.
Speaker:That was it. I remember we started having that conversation and I remember
Speaker:I'm going to have to go back and write some of this down because that
Speaker:was my literal thought when you were sharing that. I was like, this is a
Speaker:writer downer, because this is really
Speaker:powerful. I think again, so
Speaker:many people think this just sounds kind of woo. No, there's science
Speaker:behind this. This wasn't something it's
Speaker:not from just a fairy.
Speaker:It's so much deeper than that. So oh, this is
Speaker:going to be such an incredible conversation. Okay, before we get
Speaker:too far into the episode, I do want to
Speaker:ask, did you want to play two truths in one lie with us?
Speaker:Yes, I would love to. Awesome.
Speaker:Okay, so Jennifer, tell me, what are your two
Speaker:truths in one lie? So my life
Speaker:has been a bit wild, so I'm curious if anyone will
Speaker:guess. So one is
Speaker:I drove a semi truck and crashed into a gas
Speaker:station route. Two is I
Speaker:was on the front page of a newspaper for
Speaker:leading a laugh mob. And three is
Speaker:I got bit by a monkey.
Speaker:Wow. Okay,
Speaker:this is going to be good. This is going to be good because. Yeah, these
Speaker:are all kind of wild, right? But
Speaker:this is what makes life so interesting because we never know where it's going to
Speaker:lead. So tell me a little bit, like, where
Speaker:did this all start? How did you first started
Speaker:wow. How did you first start to tap. Into
Speaker:the whole concept of energy or even
Speaker:manifestation? Take me back a little bit because you've been doing this for
Speaker:a while. Well, it kind of began
Speaker:with I worked for a Naturopathic doctor back in 2006
Speaker:and I got really obsessed
Speaker:with holistic medicine and this concept of getting to the
Speaker:root cause. And that was
Speaker:in that particular environment that was the root cause of a health
Speaker:issue and it was physically
Speaker:based. Like the root cause was physical, but that was the focus
Speaker:in that practice. But this led me on a quest. To be really curious
Speaker:about this and really resonate with that idea. And
Speaker:so I started exploring different energy healing modalities
Speaker:after that. And that was when my first energy healing modality that
Speaker:I got certified in was theta healing. And the
Speaker:concept of theta healing is very much that and it's looking at what the
Speaker:root causes are, but looking at the root causes from a
Speaker:subconscious perspective. So what are some of the subconscious
Speaker:beliefs, programming and energy that's behind
Speaker:this? So even if it was a physical issue, same physical issue,
Speaker:it'd be like, okay, it could be some physical imbalances going on.
Speaker:Yes. But what's beneath that? What are the energies
Speaker:beneath that? Sometimes there
Speaker:might be a reason that we actually want to be sick, even though we might
Speaker:not think that there really actually is something beneath the
Speaker:layers. Like, well, when I was
Speaker:a kid, I wasn't getting the attention I needed, so my
Speaker:subconscious as a way of survival would create this way for me to
Speaker:get sick so that I could get love, so that I could survive in the
Speaker:ways that I needed and get my needs met. And there could not be all
Speaker:these different things beneath the surface that
Speaker:we would not consciously say that we're doing or maybe even
Speaker:be aware of, but they're there and they're
Speaker:creating things in our lives that
Speaker:aren't harmonious. And so that was really what opened the door
Speaker:to me, diving into exploring some of
Speaker:these root causes, but from all different angles when it comes
Speaker:to stuck emotions, subconscious beliefs, and all these other
Speaker:layers. And since then, I
Speaker:just loved it and just haven't stopped learning
Speaker:and exploring. Oh, that's so
Speaker:awesome. So how did you know?
Speaker:Was there any kind of significant moment
Speaker:or circumstance that kind of led you to realize, like,
Speaker:hey, this is actually the body of work
Speaker:that I want to continue in? How did you know?
Speaker:Oh, that's a tricky question.
Speaker:For the first many years, I didn't
Speaker:have enough, I think, self confidence. I had some
Speaker:things around my own self worth, self confidence,
Speaker:things that I had to work through first before I was able to own
Speaker:it. I also had to develop a lot of my skills
Speaker:because while I am a very intuitive
Speaker:being and I've reawakened that within myself,
Speaker:I had really not been tuned into
Speaker:that my whole childhood up into my early adult life. So I had to
Speaker:reawaken all of my gifts of
Speaker:connecting to my intuition and learning how to do that.
Speaker:And that was a journey that took many years and a lot
Speaker:of dedicated practice.
Speaker:Yeah, so I started
Speaker:offering energy healing sessions soon after I got my first
Speaker:training. But I didn't necessarily own it.
Speaker:Like, I am an energy healer
Speaker:and I still kind of would have another job and then
Speaker:have a few energy healing clients. And the other thing
Speaker:is, I didn't like being labeled. I've always been a very
Speaker:multipassionate person and a person that has a lot
Speaker:of interests and ideas and I'm always interested in new
Speaker:things and that's always evolving. And so I also
Speaker:really didn't like the idea of being in a box or being labeled.
Speaker:For example, I also like writing, so I was like, I'm also a
Speaker:writer and I love kids and I also
Speaker:am a teacher and I love this and I love that. And so
Speaker:even now there are these things that
Speaker:I do, and I don't necessarily say any of them is like who I
Speaker:am per se, but they're part of me and part of my gifts
Speaker:and strengths. Absolutely. Yeah, I guess I don't know when
Speaker:I officially owned it. I'd say it's probably honestly been
Speaker:within the past year or two.
Speaker:That's amazing. One of the things that I'm always talking
Speaker:about, especially for those who they
Speaker:are starting this out, maybe they've got a side hustle and
Speaker:they're having all those doubts that are just natural about
Speaker:am I doing the right thing? Is this what I'm supposed to be doing?
Speaker:Who can know about this? Is it okay if I share this information? Are people
Speaker:going to think I'm crazy? There's just all these thoughts that go through your
Speaker:mind before you actually completely
Speaker:own who you are and what you want
Speaker:to bring into the world and what you want to do.
Speaker:And it's a process, and it's not linear. Like, you may even
Speaker:go through a period of time where you think you're super clear on it and
Speaker:you think you're ready for it, and then you start to step into it and
Speaker:it's. Like, yeah, I had
Speaker:that experience at one point. I quit all my probably like
Speaker:six years ago. No, probably more
Speaker:like eight years ago. I was like, that's it, I'm just
Speaker:going to be an energy healer. And I quit my job and
Speaker:went all in. And then a bunch of life
Speaker:circumstances happened. My house got broken into,
Speaker:I had this traumatic event happen. It was
Speaker:like just spiral after spiral of life. And I'm
Speaker:like, and now does not feel like the right time for me to
Speaker:own this as a full time business. I'm not in the space. I think
Speaker:I need to get a job again, so I
Speaker:don't know. It's a journey for sure.
Speaker:It is a journey. Oh, thank you for sharing that and just
Speaker:being transparent about that because I think it's so important
Speaker:sometimes I think there's almost like this stigma
Speaker:of, well, if you're not able to just completely quit your job and do a
Speaker:business full time, then you're not really a business person. And I just
Speaker:think that's just
Speaker:false. It just is. Yeah, I
Speaker:agree. I think it's more your
Speaker:energy behind it. Like, what I found is
Speaker:like I was saying, I had all those doubts and just I had a lot
Speaker:of things in my way and as I've cleared and done so
Speaker:much work on myself and got into a place of true
Speaker:empowerment, I've owned it. Like, this is what I'm
Speaker:doing. I know this is what I'm doing. I know this is where I'm going,
Speaker:and I'm very clear on that. And if I need to do something on the
Speaker:way there that will support me in getting there, then great, I'll
Speaker:take it one day at a time and I'll trust
Speaker:that I'll get there in the way that's best for me. And there's no right
Speaker:way, there's no wrong way. There's just me and what I decide to
Speaker:do and what I decide to choose that's in alignment with the desires and where
Speaker:I'm going. So that's more how I've approached it.
Speaker:It's very individual. It's so
Speaker:individual. The journey just looks so different for
Speaker:everyone. That's awesome. So I'm curious.
Speaker:You mentioned a little bit about being a
Speaker:writer also. So what kind of writing.
Speaker:The writing desire probably
Speaker:came about? I've always loved writing, and even through my own
Speaker:work, I kind of channel
Speaker:messages and I share them on
Speaker:social media or just in my journal or I've always kind of
Speaker:have loved writing just for my own processes. And
Speaker:probably like yeah, I think it was maybe even ten years
Speaker:ago I started getting ideas for books, and,
Speaker:yeah, I just realized what I realized about writing is because I've always been a
Speaker:person that's like, okay, I want to follow my heart. I want to follow my
Speaker:highest desire, my highest excitement, and
Speaker:what is that? And so I noticed that writing
Speaker:has been another thing that's always kind of just stuck. Like, writing and
Speaker:energy healing are just like, they've been there for many
Speaker:years and work with kids. Those are, like, three categories
Speaker:that they're just constantly there, no matter how I
Speaker:evolve.
Speaker:I have probably five different books in the making
Speaker:right now, some halfway done, some all the way
Speaker:done. But my latest book is teaching
Speaker:meditation and mindfulness to kids
Speaker:through a story. And that actually just came
Speaker:to me. So I actually would just practice sitting and
Speaker:do creative writing, where I would just sit and let the words
Speaker:flow onto the paper. And
Speaker:that's what happened. The words flowed onto the paper,
Speaker:and it felt very
Speaker:energizing. I felt very alive. I felt really excited about
Speaker:it. But what happened with that book and this book that I'm
Speaker:actually about to launch in a few weeks, but was that I knew it wasn't
Speaker:complete, and I was like, okay,
Speaker:so a lot of it's here. I know it's not complete. What do
Speaker:I need to complete it? And the answers
Speaker:weren't coming to me, so I had to just wait almost
Speaker:two years before it came to me how to complete the
Speaker:book. So I found that writing is
Speaker:also be like that if you're
Speaker:writing from that place of letting it come to you.
Speaker:Right? What are some of the because I. Know
Speaker:that I've talked with some of. My clients about this, about just getting really
Speaker:still with yourself and present
Speaker:to try to really listen to your gut and your heart about
Speaker:where you're going, what you're doing, because the answers are
Speaker:there, right? As frustrating as it might hear to say,
Speaker:or as frustrating as it might be to hear that from coaches, well, the answer
Speaker:is there. And you're like, but I don't know the answer.
Speaker:What are some of the things that you practice, whether it be a daily
Speaker:habit or something that you do to kind of learn?
Speaker:How does one sit with themselves to really listen to what's on their
Speaker:heart? Well, I think there's a lot to
Speaker:that. Like, in the beginning, I would sit and listen, and
Speaker:I was also really disconnected from my emotions
Speaker:and my body and myself just because of past trauma and
Speaker:past experiences. So it was hard. Like, I would sit there and be
Speaker:like, I want to feel something, and I would just feel, like, numb
Speaker:or disconnected. And so I feel like it really
Speaker:depends. People can be in very different spaces when they
Speaker:start. Like, I've been in places where I've been depressed and
Speaker:in really low places, and it feels really
Speaker:impossible sometimes to connect to yourself, especially
Speaker:when you're not used to it and you haven't been doing it for a while.
Speaker:What I found is that it really is like a culmination of
Speaker:a little bit builds over time. So the way that I've
Speaker:actually seen transformation in my life and major
Speaker:transformation, is not like I sat and felt
Speaker:my feelings or got a message. Like one time just doesn't
Speaker:work. I've done it consistently
Speaker:over many, many years and it's all
Speaker:added up to then it gets easier,
Speaker:then I can hear the answers more easily.
Speaker:Then I notice shifts in my life quicker. Or I'm starting to
Speaker:see the reflections of how it's actually impacting my outer reality.
Speaker:But it's not like a one time thing. So it really just depends on
Speaker:where you're starting from. And that could be all over the board,
Speaker:but I could keep going. Does that
Speaker:answer any of your questions? I can keep talking about anyone. And how I
Speaker:know that answers so. Much
Speaker:because there's so much more
Speaker:to it, right? There is a healing process, especially
Speaker:if you have experienced some sort of significant trauma or traumas
Speaker:in your life. Because I want to be aware of the fact that sometimes it
Speaker:might not be one single significant event at one period in
Speaker:time. It could also be the accumulation of
Speaker:event, right? But there
Speaker:is a healing process that has to occur there
Speaker:before you can exactly what you're saying learn how to
Speaker:sit and listen. And it's one of those things
Speaker:where once you've experienced so I know that
Speaker:you've said a couple of times so far about
Speaker:channeling something or receiving a message. The thing
Speaker:is, we've been receiving these messages our whole
Speaker:lives, but for a really long time
Speaker:we kind of ignore them, right? We're like, oh, that's not and then
Speaker:eventually it is exactly what you're describing. Like this process
Speaker:where you have to teach yourself, okay, well, what if I listen this time?
Speaker:Or what if I act upon this feeling, this
Speaker:message I feel like I'm receiving that's saying do this or
Speaker:that. Gosh. So many important pieces in there.
Speaker:The healing process, learning how to listen and accept it.
Speaker:And again, that's why we're having this conversation of just normalizing some of these things
Speaker:that occur. Such powerful information.
Speaker:Yeah. Oh, sorry, I was going to say. I think no, go
Speaker:ahead. The other thing to the listening is like we start
Speaker:listening, right? We start tuning into our inner voice, kind
Speaker:of what maybe some of the thoughts going through our mind. Maybe we start getting
Speaker:more attuned to these things. There's also things to learn about what
Speaker:we're hearing. Because not everything you hear or
Speaker:tune into is like the divine truth.
Speaker:There's little parts in you, like wounded parts. Maybe this little
Speaker:child. And I think we all have traumas and a ton of them, and they
Speaker:don't have to be some big, horrible, traumatic event although a lot of us have
Speaker:those too. But it can be little things. Like someone
Speaker:picked on me and called me a mean name when I was five and now
Speaker:I believe that I am an idiot and I suck
Speaker:and who knows, whatever you decided to believe about yourself.
Speaker:But then it's like that little voice, that little girl
Speaker:that never got to express how she felt when so and so picked on her
Speaker:when she decided that she sucks. And
Speaker:that's the little voice that's in there saying like giving you
Speaker:advice. Sometimes we have to learn
Speaker:not only to listen, but we have to be like, what are we listening to
Speaker:here? Like this little wounded part of myself
Speaker:that had this experience that's really just needing my love and attention.
Speaker:So we really have to learn how to connect to
Speaker:our highest version of ourselves and
Speaker:let that version of ourselves be leading us. And with
Speaker:that comes a lot of showing up for all these other parts of
Speaker:ourselves that our whole lives. We didn't have the tools,
Speaker:we didn't know how to do this, we weren't taught this, so we
Speaker:weren't able to show up for them. And most likely our parents weren't
Speaker:taught this or teachers or people around us weren't taught
Speaker:these skills and these tools. So they weren't able to show up for us in
Speaker:the way we needed to process these things. And so we have to show up
Speaker:for ourselves to process all of these little parts so that we
Speaker:can actually hear our higher version
Speaker:of ourself like the version we want to be listening to. Because
Speaker:otherwise we're getting led by you can listen, but you might be getting
Speaker:led by somebody you don't want to actually be listening to.
Speaker:Yeah, no, that
Speaker:exact it's like you were taking the words out of my mouth. One of the
Speaker:things that I do when I'm working with somebody, like on their self
Speaker:belief statement and we're working on this statement of the ultimate,
Speaker:highest version of themselves that they want to
Speaker:become, is that when you're writing it
Speaker:every day. And we're trying to work on some of those subconscious
Speaker:thoughts. Really asking yourself, like, when
Speaker:new thoughts are coming in as you're writing about this future
Speaker:self, being able to ask yourself, well, is this
Speaker:my old wounded self that's talking to me right now? That's having these
Speaker:new thoughts? Or is this a thought? Because I am
Speaker:seeing my future highest self.
Speaker:It's a little tricky, right? Yeah,
Speaker:takes practice for sure. Or like what would my highest
Speaker:version of myself do in this scenario? And working
Speaker:to connect to that or connecting to these
Speaker:future versions of yourself and who you're becoming, what would she do?
Speaker:How would she show up in this? Sometimes
Speaker:I even also ask is this mine? Is this someone else's? Because sometimes
Speaker:we have this is my parent
Speaker:voice that's talking here that
Speaker:I've kind of integrated in me and
Speaker:it's become me, but this isn't actually me. So
Speaker:who is this saying this?
Speaker:Yes. Oh, man, that's so good.
Speaker:Okay, so I know I kind of went off on a little bit of a
Speaker:tangent, but you had said that the second
Speaker:part of, or the last part of the book that you were working on had
Speaker:finally come to you. Tell me a little bit about that. So do you feel
Speaker:like it's finished? Are we going to see a book soon?
Speaker:Yes. So that book is actually complete?
Speaker:Yeah. It's called my big heart. And yeah, so
Speaker:the final pieces came to me, and it's the journey of
Speaker:a little girl who feels small and invisible,
Speaker:and she's physically small because she's a child and going on
Speaker:a journey of through mindfulness and reconnecting to
Speaker:her heart and her energy field. And it incorporates that heart mass study we
Speaker:talked about in the beginning into the book. It weaves it in. She discovers the
Speaker:power of herself and how powerful she truly is, the power
Speaker:of her heart. And she just
Speaker:realizes how big she truly is in power, heart, strength.
Speaker:And yeah, it's a journey of
Speaker:her transformation. So I'm really excited about it.
Speaker:It's going to be coming out in the next couple of weeks. It'll be
Speaker:on Amazon. Oh, that's
Speaker:so amazing. Yeah. Imagine if
Speaker:we could see or if we were able to understand our
Speaker:power when we were little, when we were
Speaker:younger. So is it written
Speaker:as a book for children or just is it
Speaker:like an adult book about the little girl? So
Speaker:I say it's for children of all ages, but it is written for children. It's
Speaker:a children's picture book, has beautiful
Speaker:illustrations, and so it's just a short, easy read with
Speaker:beautiful illustrations. It's a picture book. So it is written for kids
Speaker:ages six and up. And I also think
Speaker:that adults of all ages could benefit from
Speaker:it. Sorry, children of all
Speaker:ages, which essentially is also adults.
Speaker:Amen. Because I still don't know what I want to be when I grow
Speaker:up. Do we ever
Speaker:know? And it's always evolving. It's always evolving. I don't
Speaker:think that it's like, one thing I will be forever.
Speaker:Right. I have a 20 year old. And it
Speaker:was just a couple of weeks ago where he was saying, I really just
Speaker:don't know what I want to do. He's like, yeah, I'm going to school,
Speaker:but I still don't know what I want to do. And I was like, Kid,
Speaker:none of us actually know that answer.
Speaker:Yeah, I really wish that more of this would be
Speaker:shared because as a kid, I felt the same way and I thought, Well, I
Speaker:don't know what I want to do. And then I was very determined, like, well,
Speaker:I'm going to do something that I love. I'm going to find work that I
Speaker:love. And I really wish
Speaker:that that was shared to me or would be shared to more kids
Speaker:that it's really about deciding. It's not about
Speaker:finding anything. It's about deciding, this is what I'm going to do and this
Speaker:is what I'm going to create, and learning how to
Speaker:follow your heart and how to do
Speaker:that and yeah, these little things like, oh, well, that's not really how life is.
Speaker:Like giving showing kids these things so they don't
Speaker:have these unrealistic expectations that then lead you
Speaker:feeling defeated in life when it was never necessary.
Speaker:Never. Right. I know we kind of portray
Speaker:this life that, yeah, you're going to go to school
Speaker:and you're going to know what you want to become and what you want to
Speaker:do, and that's going to be your life and you're going to love it. And
Speaker:that's just so far from the truth.
Speaker:Just does not work that way. Yeah. I am so
Speaker:excited about the book. Thank you.
Speaker:Yeah, I was just going to say I've even felt this way about how people
Speaker:talk about finding your purpose. And I almost feel like it's the same
Speaker:thing where people are like, find your purpose, and once
Speaker:you find your purpose, everything will be butterflies and rainbows and you'll
Speaker:be so fulfilled and happy and life will be wonderful. And
Speaker:I really feel like it's the same idea of, like, find your career, find
Speaker:your whatever, and it's all promoting
Speaker:something outside of you, something in the future will then make you
Speaker:happy. Like, you're not satisfied now and you're not feeling great now,
Speaker:but if you had this thing and it's
Speaker:like a thing that, how do I get this thing? You're never going to
Speaker:get this thing. No, it's all
Speaker:just yeah, I don't think that's the answer.
Speaker:It's so not. It's like these superficial checkboxes that you
Speaker:keep trying to check and then you're thinking, oh, well, if I just check the
Speaker:next box, that's going to be the box that'll make me happy. That'll that'll
Speaker:be the thing. And it's never the thing.
Speaker:It's never the thing,
Speaker:man. Yeah. And so trying to convince
Speaker:somebody younger of that is difficult. But I
Speaker:love the idea and the concept that you're describing of this
Speaker:book where a child at any age
Speaker:can read this and I really think probably just
Speaker:relate to it because it is, like you said it's through a story.
Speaker:Yeah. I'm so excited for
Speaker:that to come out so that the audience knows
Speaker:once that book is released, we will be sharing it. I'll be adding it to
Speaker:the show notes. So regardless of when you're listening, be. Sure to check
Speaker:the show notes. Yeah.
Speaker:That's an amazing achievement. Right. And just knowing
Speaker:that you took the time to listen to
Speaker:yourself and that you allowed that process to evolve and to come
Speaker:through is really powerful.
Speaker:Yeah, I definitely have a passion for
Speaker:supporting kids and getting these messages out early to
Speaker:give kids to normalize these things. Like even the topic
Speaker:we're talking about, talking. About connecting to your intuition.
Speaker:There's so many things that I want to support children.
Speaker:So yeah, it's one of my passions.
Speaker:Love that. So you said you're multi passionate. Have you worked
Speaker:with kids in the past also? Yes, I have. Yeah,
Speaker:I actually worked in education for a while, I don't know,
Speaker:many years, but a lot of years. At one point I was a school teacher,
Speaker:I taught elementary school,
Speaker:and I still have that business, an outdoor classroom for
Speaker:kids where we teach them about mindfulness and meditation.
Speaker:Mindfulness, meditation, same yoga, connecting to nature, connecting to
Speaker:themselves. I worked in the social emotional learning space,
Speaker:bringing social emotional learning skills to kids, teaching health
Speaker:awareness, leadership skills. So yeah, I worked
Speaker:with kids in a lot of different ways over the years, I've taught Mindfulness to
Speaker:kids. So yeah, I do have experience with teaching
Speaker:Mindfulness to kids. That is
Speaker:incredible. Oh man, that is so
Speaker:awesome. What a great thing to
Speaker:teach, right? Because again, I think like we were like I
Speaker:just think about this, I'm like, man, if somebody, somebody could have found
Speaker:five year old Jen and said. Hey, here's
Speaker:how you can learn how. To ground
Speaker:yourself when you are running around barefoot. Because I used to run all
Speaker:over the place. Yeah.
Speaker:Right, I think about that. I'm like, yes, that is
Speaker:exactly the message I wish I would have really been able to
Speaker:experience and understand.
Speaker:When I taught Mindfulness in second grade, for example,
Speaker:I made it normal in my classroom,
Speaker:but none of the other classrooms really,
Speaker:they didn't all do it. And so my kids would say they thought it was
Speaker:just like any other subject because I had normalized it so much. Like it's just
Speaker:as important as math or anything else. And they would write, I'd say
Speaker:like, what's your favorite subject? And so many kids would say, Mindfulness. Mindfulness. He loves
Speaker:know they loved it. And I saw some kids in the future
Speaker:when they were that I had in second grade, one that I saw
Speaker:when he was in fourth grade because I had stopped teaching. And he was like,
Speaker:you know what's so strange, Miss Jen? I'm like what? He's like my
Speaker:teachers aren't doing mindfulness.
Speaker:And I thought it was amazing because I had created the foundation that
Speaker:he thought that was completely normal, that you would
Speaker:have mindfulness, that you would talk about your feelings, that
Speaker:all of these things that I made very normal. And he thought it
Speaker:was weird that his other teachers weren't doing it. But I think
Speaker:if we start making it normal from a
Speaker:really young age, I mean, I've seen kids that have
Speaker:Sat, and I also teach laughter yoga, and
Speaker:I've seen kids sit in my yoga classes and I've seen
Speaker:kids that they're meditating at five years old,
Speaker:completely can sit still for 30 minutes.
Speaker:And it's really about how we see
Speaker:it. What I found as an adult is that it's how
Speaker:we see what's possible for the kids that they
Speaker:step into. Because I've seen adults it's
Speaker:not possible for my kid to sit still. You don't know my
Speaker:kid. No, you do not know my child.
Speaker:Or they'll be like, Children, they don't sit still.
Speaker:Children, this is not possible for children. Children cannot do these
Speaker:things. And then that is the reality.
Speaker:So that's where my fairy comes in. And I'm like,
Speaker:what do you believe to be true? Because you're creating your reality.
Speaker:So, yeah, I have seen that kids can do it and they love
Speaker:it. And I have even had kids in second grade.
Speaker:They all want to lead it. And I had where they could start teaching
Speaker:it themselves. And I had a list of like every
Speaker:single child wanted to do it, and one child wrote his name seven times. And
Speaker:I'm like, okay, you don't have enough space because everyone wants to do it.
Speaker:So they love it if you
Speaker:introduce it to them. And they share things that their
Speaker:parents don't even realize because
Speaker:their parents not all parents, but sometimes these
Speaker:conversations haven't ever happened before, so
Speaker:they might share things. I've had scenarios where I've had kids share
Speaker:things with me that in front of a parent, they're like, I didn't know that
Speaker:about you, just because it hasn't been talked
Speaker:about. Yeah,
Speaker:well and the thing is, in so many other cultures, that
Speaker:mindfulness for children is normalized.
Speaker:So, yes, it is entirely possible.
Speaker:And our children absolutely can learn this.
Speaker:And it's quite impactful.
Speaker:I think it's amazing. I hope that you realize, and I'm sure that you do,
Speaker:because of how aware you are, but
Speaker:those kids now are getting to grow up and they know,
Speaker:hey, I learned this thing way back in second grade, and I
Speaker:had no idea the impact this would have. But they're able
Speaker:to take those skills with them now forever. And
Speaker:you did that, which is pretty freaking cool. Thank
Speaker:you. Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker:Oh, chills. It's so amazing. When I think about it.
Speaker:I think the message is like, we can all do it, right? And
Speaker:it starts with us being confident and practicing it so that
Speaker:we were able to share. Because kids are BS
Speaker:detectors, so you have to embody
Speaker:it. You can't just be like, you should sit and be quiet and do
Speaker:mindfulness while I sit over here and drink my wine and
Speaker:don't do any mindfulness at all. Like, no, they are
Speaker:not going to do it, I'm telling you. But it's more of our energy
Speaker:and our energy behind it. And if we're models of it,
Speaker:then they will join you in it. So it really starts with us as
Speaker:adults, and I think it's like all of us
Speaker:can help embody it, not only for ourselves, but for our kids
Speaker:and kids of the future. I mean, the kids are our future. Our future
Speaker:society needs this. We need this is a
Speaker:foundation, how to feel our emotions, how to connect our emotions, how
Speaker:to process things, how to communicate
Speaker:our society needs this. Yes.
Speaker:Truth on so many levels. Yeah, I did
Speaker:therapeutic foster care for several years. And it's so
Speaker:true. Kids are the biggest BS detectors, and they will call you out.
Speaker:But it's interesting too,
Speaker:exactly what you're saying. If you're already practicing
Speaker:it and you're doing it, pretty soon
Speaker:they're going to want to do it, too. And it's a whole
Speaker:experience. I'm so glad you're sharing this with us today because
Speaker:it's really powerful. Okay,
Speaker:so I want to circle back because you shared a couple of little
Speaker:blurbs of some things you've done in your past. So now I want to try
Speaker:and guess your two truths and one lie. Okay, so let me
Speaker:go back. So if I remember right, you said you
Speaker:drove a semi and crashed it into a gas
Speaker:station rope. Oh, my gosh.
Speaker:I'm laughing. So my dad was a truck driver growing up, and
Speaker:so way back in the day, because I'm very old, sometimes
Speaker:I used to be able to travel with him in his truck. And so just
Speaker:even thinking of that story in my head, I'm like, oh, this is something I
Speaker:would have done. But okay, two truths in one lie. You either
Speaker:drove a semi truck, it crashed into a gas station roof, you were on the
Speaker:front page of a newspaper for leading a laugh mob, or
Speaker:you got bit by a monkey. I'm going
Speaker:to say that you did leave a lead
Speaker:a laugh mob. Is that one true? Yes.
Speaker:Okay, well, because you mentioned something about leading
Speaker:laugh yoga. Yeah, I thought about that. I'm like, darn
Speaker:it.
Speaker:This is the funnest part of the game.
Speaker:We don't realize all the little hells that we leave along the
Speaker:way. But is this good? I love this. Okay,
Speaker:so then now I can't decide between okay, I will say this.
Speaker:Driving a semi truck is no easy.
Speaker:There's enough buttons for I don't even know what it looks like the cockpit of
Speaker:an airplane or something. It's a little wild. Or you got bit by a
Speaker:monkey. That's a tricky one because
Speaker:based on some of your experiences, I'm betting you're well
Speaker:traveled. And that just is a possibility in
Speaker:my mind. I'm going to say, I
Speaker:know this is, like, so tricky. I'm going to
Speaker:say you did not drive the semi truck.
Speaker:Incorrect book.
Speaker:This was so okay, you have to. Tell the semi truck story. Oh,
Speaker:God. Okay. I'll
Speaker:try to do a short version, I guess. So my
Speaker:friend, after college, my friend got this job
Speaker:where she was driving a pink Hummer up and down the coast, doing
Speaker:promotional marketing, going to these expos,
Speaker:promoting different brands. And I was want to do that type
Speaker:of job. I want to drive a pink Hummer up and down the coast of
Speaker:California. So anyways, I applied for the
Speaker:same type of job. I got hired for
Speaker:one. They didn't tell me what I would be driving. I get there and they're
Speaker:like, you will actually be driving this Humongous
Speaker:truck, which I had only
Speaker:driven a small little car at that point ever even driven a pickup
Speaker:truck, let alone a huge truck. It was very comical. Very
Speaker:hilarious. I had no idea what I'm doing. I don't know why I didn't just
Speaker:say, I am not doing this job. But at the time, I
Speaker:was very determined. I was right out of college. I was like, yes, I still
Speaker:get to go to all these states, and they're going to pay for me and
Speaker:my food and my hotel, and it's. Going to be great.
Speaker:Yeah. So I got in the car and
Speaker:drove to the gas station, which I didn't think about the fact
Speaker:that the truck is higher than the gas station roof.
Speaker:And I also didn't realize that there are separate
Speaker:gas stations for trucks and gas stations
Speaker:for regular people when they're regular cars.
Speaker:This is the best story. Well,
Speaker:I accidentally went to the regular people gas station
Speaker:and tried to just go in as I would, but
Speaker:hit the roof of the gas station since the truck was bigger than it.
Speaker:And I went on the side and the truck got
Speaker:stuck between the roof of the gas station.
Speaker:And I was basically tilted in the
Speaker:truck, like wedged in between. And I
Speaker:just rolled my window down and I was like, beat my heart. I
Speaker:was like, hell, can I hear the Held?
Speaker:And it was very hilarious. Even I was like, scared
Speaker:that it was going to tip over and also laughing at the same time because
Speaker:I'm like, what am I doing with myself in my life right now?
Speaker:How am I in this scenario? And people
Speaker:chucker started coming up to me and they thought I was
Speaker:in a reality TV show. They didn't think it was real.
Speaker:No one would take me seriously. They thought it was like a
Speaker:fake thing. And I was like they're like,
Speaker:okay, it's a reality TV show, whatever. And I was like,
Speaker:no, this is my real life. Can
Speaker:you get a couch?
Speaker:Oh, my God. This is the best story. That
Speaker:is the best story. Yeah. So finally they believe
Speaker:me. I'm like, no, it's real. Can you call for help?
Speaker:And so we had to get a crane. A crane had to come and
Speaker:lift the truck. And I'm like, in it? Lift me
Speaker:out and drop me back down.
Speaker:My gosh. Yeah. This is the most amazing story. It
Speaker:was really hilarious. And I did not last very long at that job.
Speaker:I quit soon after. I was like, this is
Speaker:not for me. But it was very hilarious.
Speaker:Wait, they didn't but wait, here's what's important. They didn't
Speaker:fire you? No, they didn't fire me. Wow.
Speaker:Well, the truck wasn't that damaged. It was like
Speaker:a tiny little dent on the side of the truck, like barely any damage. And
Speaker:they're like, okay, you could just keep going, not a problem,
Speaker:get going.
Speaker:Yeah. Now that you know there are two. Sides to the gas station,
Speaker:let's just keep going. Now that you've learned
Speaker:we trust you completely to get there safely.
Speaker:Well, that's the best story. Oh,
Speaker:wow. Oh my gosh, that is so
Speaker:great. Okay, thank you for that because that was so
Speaker:good. Okay, so
Speaker:I have to ask, if people want to get in touch with you, where are
Speaker:you? I'm assuming you're on social media. How can people connect?
Speaker:Yes, you can find me on social media. You can find me on my website.
Speaker:In terms of the book, the website is
Speaker:Jenniferfay.com. So, yeah,
Speaker:I'm offering a free ebook to
Speaker:everyone from the audience. So if you would like to message
Speaker:me, you can fill out your email. You'll see at the top a button
Speaker:that'll just say, like, listen now to your free audio. I'm
Speaker:also offering a free audio, a free mindfulness audio
Speaker:that goes along with the book. So you can just fill out
Speaker:your email there or you can send me a message
Speaker:on social media and just say, hey, can you send me the ebook
Speaker:and the audio and you can find me through
Speaker:my website, you'll find my social media. Or you can go to Soul infused
Speaker:Writer as well on Instagram and find
Speaker:me there. Awesome. Okay, well, I'm going to
Speaker:be sure and for the audience, I am going to be sure and share links
Speaker:so that you can connect with Jennifer on any of those platforms.
Speaker:And the free ebook, I'm kind of excited about that.
Speaker:So if there was one
Speaker:thing what's one thing you want the audience today to
Speaker:take away? I think
Speaker:something that came to me in a retreat. I was in a retreat in Mexico
Speaker:a few weeks ago and the thing that came to me was begin with pleasure.
Speaker:And I think that's what I want to share. I think
Speaker:the key we talked about kind of like, don't focus
Speaker:on I need to find my purpose or I need to find my
Speaker:dream job or I need to whatever, have this business and then I'll be happy.
Speaker:It's more what do you do?
Speaker:You begin with pleasure. That's where you start. And if you bring
Speaker:more pleasure into your day, like, you wake up, how can I begin
Speaker:my day with pleasure? Like, I'm busy AF, I have a lot
Speaker:going on, but how do you take that and be
Speaker:like, but how can I still begin with pleasure?
Speaker:How can I feel my feelings for two
Speaker:minutes? How can I sit outside in the warm sun and let the sun rays
Speaker:touch my skin and make me feel
Speaker:alive? How can you begin with
Speaker:pleasure? And even when you're deciding, what should I do in business,
Speaker:like, not deciding, like, well, I need to make money
Speaker:first. And if I make a lot of money, then I'll
Speaker:focus on the thing that I really like because then I'll have
Speaker:created financial freedom and then I can do the thing no, don't do any of
Speaker:that. What is the thing that you can begin now? With pleasure.
Speaker:What's the thing that, yes,
Speaker:I'm going to do this and it checks the
Speaker:pleasure box, too. This is going to bring me pleasure and
Speaker:maybe it'll bring me money, too. I'm making
Speaker:decisions that are aligned with what brings me the
Speaker:pleasure now, not the future.
Speaker:I love that message so much that is so in
Speaker:alignment with me just a thousand
Speaker:percent. So thank you. I think that is the
Speaker:best thing to be able to walk away with.
Speaker:Well, Jennifer, it has been an absolute pleasure. I'm
Speaker:so glad that you decided to join us today and
Speaker:I have absolutely loved having you as a guest. So I will be
Speaker:sure and share all of your contact information into the show notes,
Speaker:so be sure to check those and thank you. I hope you had
Speaker:fun, too. I definitely enjoyed all of the stories, but not just the
Speaker:stories. Even learning more about your work, it's really impactful. So
Speaker:thank you for coming on to share. Thank you. Jen, I love what you
Speaker:do and I love your heart behind everything and the messages that you're
Speaker:here to help share with women
Speaker:and messages of empowerment
Speaker:and all that you bring to support people in growing in their
Speaker:business. And, yeah, I can feel you're very heart
Speaker:centered and authentic and I'm really happy that yeah, I
Speaker:had so much fun connecting with you. Good.
Speaker:I'm so glad. All right, well, that concludes
Speaker:this episode. Thank you for joining and until
Speaker:next time, keep making shift happen.
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