Episode 27

Unlocking Mindfulness: Strategies to Empower Children and Adults

Episode Summary

Welcome back to another episode of "A Whole Lotta Shift"! In today's episode, we have a very special guest joining us, the incredible Jennifer Fae. Jennifer is a healer and writer, who has a unique perspective on the healing process. We dive deep into the importance of listening and the accumulation of events that contribute to our healing journey. Jennifer shares her recent transformative experience at a retreat in Mexico and emphasizes the power of starting each day with pleasure. We explore the concept of aligning present pleasure with decision-making, rather than solely focusing on future outcomes.

Jennifer will also discuss her passion for writing and her ongoing book projects, including her most recent book release, “My Big Heart”, focused on teaching meditation and mindfulness to kids. Jennifer shares her experience teaching mindfulness, as a teacher in a second-grade classroom, highlighting the immense potential children have for mindfulness practices.


To top it off, Jennifer shares her magical experiences of manifesting her desires and shifting limitations using subtle energies. Trust us, this episode is filled with insightful wisdom and plenty of laughter. So sit back, relax, and get ready for a whole lot of shift with Jennifer Fae!


About the Guest:


Jenn began offering energy healing sessions in 2010. She is certified in many modalities and is a reiki master, advanced theta healer, sound healer, and certified meditation teacher.


Her ultimate mission is to teach and support others to bring more light into their energy field. She believes we came here to vibrate at a frequency that impacts the world around us. This is how we grow as souls and make the greatest impact.


She currently spreads her light through channeled writing on her social media pages, books and in her energy healing sessions.


Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091151358333

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soul.infused.writer/

Website: www.jenniferfae.com

Book Release: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCW6W3TP?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

Free Gift: https://bit.ly/3nWCSqK


About the Host:

Jen is a Dream Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.

Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.

After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.

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Jennifer, tell me, what are your two. Truths and one lie?

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So my life has been bit wild, so I'm curious if

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anyone will guess. So one is

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I drove a semi truck and crashed into a gas

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station route. Two is I

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was on the front page of a newspaper for

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leading a laugh job. And three is

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I got bit by a monkey.

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Welcome to a whole lot of shift, podcast. The

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podcast for multi passionate women with an entrepreneurial spirit

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where we provide inspiration, motivation and education

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to help you shift away from all the shoulds and supposed tos

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to what's truly possible for you in your business and your

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life all on your own terms. You ready,

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girl? Let's make shift happen.

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Hello, and welcome to another episode of a Whole Lot of

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Shift. I am so excited to bring our guest to you all

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today. I am bringing you Jennifer Faye. And

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Jennifer is an energy healer and

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she is someone who I met recently. And when she reached

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out and she and I connected this last week, I knew that she was

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somebody that I had to have on the show and bring to all of

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you. So first, let me just say welcome Jennifer. Excited

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that you're here. Thank you. I am so excited to be

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here also. So like I said,

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Jennifer, she began offering some energy healing way back

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in 2010. She is certified in several different

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modalities and she's a Reiki master, an advanced theta

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healer, sound healer, and a certified meditation

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teacher. Really her ultimate vision is to teach and

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support others to bring more light into their energy

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field. She believes we came here to vibrate on a

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frequency that impacts the world around us. You guys, I

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am so excited for her to be on the show. If you've

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listened to any of my past episodes, then you know how much

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I talk about the importance of your energy and

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listening to your intuition and feeling into the power of the universe

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and all these other things that go into the level that you are

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vibrating on for your business and your life. And I'm

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so excited that she's here to share so many amazing things with us.

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So Jennifer, anything that I missed? Tell us a

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little bit about yourself. Thank you. I mean,

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that could be a whole episode in itself. That's probably a lot I

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could share, but I guess I can say

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share a perspective that my friends always say. They always kind of call me the

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fairy. Like oh, fairy friend. They call me the fairy friend.

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And I am labeled as that

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because I am a person that really

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believe, I really truly do believe anything is possible.

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And I see limitations that people

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might have or say,

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and I see them as all things that can be

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transformed or alchemized using our energetic fields

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and kind of some of these subtle energies that are behind it.

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Maybe energies that we're not consciously aware of like our

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subconscious beliefs or patterns

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from the past, past traumas emotions that are stuck in the

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body. There's kind of a lot that can go on in the energetic field.

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But from my perspective, I think we can shift it and

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align to really anything that our heart desires and

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then be aligned to receiving it. So that's kind of

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why I think that they all call me the fairy, and

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just because of magical experiences where I

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created that type of thing in my own life. Yeah, which I can share more

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about, but yeah, that's a little bit.

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Yeah. No, it's funny that

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I'm sure your friends are saying it in a teasing

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manner, because one of the things that

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you and I had said even before we started recording was that we really kind

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of want to. Try to normalize this entire conversation

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because I think when people start to hear about an energy

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healer or operating on a certain vibrational

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frequency, people get a little like, whoa, that sounds a

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little woo woo, a little out there. Or I have one

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friend who's always telling me, well, that sounds a little new Age like,

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okay, well,

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but it's so true. There was something that you had said to

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me when we had met previously about

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just that, our own vibration,

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like the amount in which it traveled. And I wish I could remember

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what it was that you shared because it was really powerful to me and

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my mind just went blank. I think it might have been related to

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possibly the book and the study with the Heart Math Institute.

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I don't know if you

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the Heart Math Institute, they do research related to

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the heart and brain coherence and

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they study our energy fields but using science. And

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so they had found that they looked

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at the photons in the body, which essentially

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is light. Like the light we vibrate is really the photons in our

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body. In certain realms they might call it like your

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aura or your energetic field and in science they might call it like

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your photons. And there's all different names, but it's kind of

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all the same. And so they found that

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through intentionally focusing on the heart

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and meditating in a space where you're focused on this heart energy

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and connecting to that with your intention that

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the photons in the body,

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these little balls of light, increase by 5000

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times. So

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literally the energy around a person's body,

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I mean, 5000 times more energy and light

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just by something as simple as focusing on the

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heart and our intention.

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That was it. I remember we started having that conversation and I remember

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I'm going to have to go back and write some of this down because that

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was my literal thought when you were sharing that. I was like, this is a

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writer downer, because this is really

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powerful. I think again, so

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many people think this just sounds kind of woo. No, there's science

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behind this. This wasn't something it's

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not from just a fairy.

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It's so much deeper than that. So oh, this is

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going to be such an incredible conversation. Okay, before we get

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too far into the episode, I do want to

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ask, did you want to play two truths in one lie with us?

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Yes, I would love to. Awesome.

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Okay, so Jennifer, tell me, what are your two

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truths in one lie? So my life

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has been a bit wild, so I'm curious if anyone will

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guess. So one is

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I drove a semi truck and crashed into a gas

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station route. Two is I

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was on the front page of a newspaper for

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leading a laugh mob. And three is

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I got bit by a monkey.

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Wow. Okay,

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this is going to be good. This is going to be good because. Yeah, these

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are all kind of wild, right? But

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this is what makes life so interesting because we never know where it's going to

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lead. So tell me a little bit, like, where

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did this all start? How did you first started

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wow. How did you first start to tap. Into

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the whole concept of energy or even

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manifestation? Take me back a little bit because you've been doing this for

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a while. Well, it kind of began

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with I worked for a Naturopathic doctor back in 2006

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and I got really obsessed

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with holistic medicine and this concept of getting to the

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root cause. And that was

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in that particular environment that was the root cause of a health

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issue and it was physically

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based. Like the root cause was physical, but that was the focus

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in that practice. But this led me on a quest. To be really curious

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about this and really resonate with that idea. And

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so I started exploring different energy healing modalities

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after that. And that was when my first energy healing modality that

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I got certified in was theta healing. And the

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concept of theta healing is very much that and it's looking at what the

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root causes are, but looking at the root causes from a

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subconscious perspective. So what are some of the subconscious

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beliefs, programming and energy that's behind

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this? So even if it was a physical issue, same physical issue,

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it'd be like, okay, it could be some physical imbalances going on.

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Yes. But what's beneath that? What are the energies

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beneath that? Sometimes there

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might be a reason that we actually want to be sick, even though we might

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not think that there really actually is something beneath the

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layers. Like, well, when I was

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a kid, I wasn't getting the attention I needed, so my

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subconscious as a way of survival would create this way for me to

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get sick so that I could get love, so that I could survive in the

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ways that I needed and get my needs met. And there could not be all

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these different things beneath the surface that

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we would not consciously say that we're doing or maybe even

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be aware of, but they're there and they're

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creating things in our lives that

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aren't harmonious. And so that was really what opened the door

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to me, diving into exploring some of

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these root causes, but from all different angles when it comes

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to stuck emotions, subconscious beliefs, and all these other

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layers. And since then, I

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just loved it and just haven't stopped learning

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and exploring. Oh, that's so

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awesome. So how did you know?

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Was there any kind of significant moment

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or circumstance that kind of led you to realize, like,

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hey, this is actually the body of work

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that I want to continue in? How did you know?

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Oh, that's a tricky question.

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For the first many years, I didn't

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have enough, I think, self confidence. I had some

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things around my own self worth, self confidence,

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things that I had to work through first before I was able to own

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it. I also had to develop a lot of my skills

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because while I am a very intuitive

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being and I've reawakened that within myself,

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I had really not been tuned into

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that my whole childhood up into my early adult life. So I had to

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reawaken all of my gifts of

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connecting to my intuition and learning how to do that.

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And that was a journey that took many years and a lot

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of dedicated practice.

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Yeah, so I started

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offering energy healing sessions soon after I got my first

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training. But I didn't necessarily own it.

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Like, I am an energy healer

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and I still kind of would have another job and then

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have a few energy healing clients. And the other thing

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is, I didn't like being labeled. I've always been a very

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multipassionate person and a person that has a lot

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of interests and ideas and I'm always interested in new

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things and that's always evolving. And so I also

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really didn't like the idea of being in a box or being labeled.

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For example, I also like writing, so I was like, I'm also a

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writer and I love kids and I also

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am a teacher and I love this and I love that. And so

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even now there are these things that

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I do, and I don't necessarily say any of them is like who I

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am per se, but they're part of me and part of my gifts

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and strengths. Absolutely. Yeah, I guess I don't know when

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I officially owned it. I'd say it's probably honestly been

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within the past year or two.

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That's amazing. One of the things that I'm always talking

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about, especially for those who they

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are starting this out, maybe they've got a side hustle and

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they're having all those doubts that are just natural about

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am I doing the right thing? Is this what I'm supposed to be doing?

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Who can know about this? Is it okay if I share this information? Are people

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going to think I'm crazy? There's just all these thoughts that go through your

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mind before you actually completely

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own who you are and what you want

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to bring into the world and what you want to do.

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And it's a process, and it's not linear. Like, you may even

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go through a period of time where you think you're super clear on it and

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you think you're ready for it, and then you start to step into it and

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it's. Like, yeah, I had

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that experience at one point. I quit all my probably like

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six years ago. No, probably more

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like eight years ago. I was like, that's it, I'm just

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going to be an energy healer. And I quit my job and

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went all in. And then a bunch of life

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circumstances happened. My house got broken into,

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I had this traumatic event happen. It was

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like just spiral after spiral of life. And I'm

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like, and now does not feel like the right time for me to

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own this as a full time business. I'm not in the space. I think

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I need to get a job again, so I

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don't know. It's a journey for sure.

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It is a journey. Oh, thank you for sharing that and just

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being transparent about that because I think it's so important

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sometimes I think there's almost like this stigma

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of, well, if you're not able to just completely quit your job and do a

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business full time, then you're not really a business person. And I just

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think that's just

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false. It just is. Yeah, I

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agree. I think it's more your

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energy behind it. Like, what I found is

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like I was saying, I had all those doubts and just I had a lot

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of things in my way and as I've cleared and done so

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much work on myself and got into a place of true

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empowerment, I've owned it. Like, this is what I'm

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doing. I know this is what I'm doing. I know this is where I'm going,

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and I'm very clear on that. And if I need to do something on the

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way there that will support me in getting there, then great, I'll

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take it one day at a time and I'll trust

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that I'll get there in the way that's best for me. And there's no right

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way, there's no wrong way. There's just me and what I decide to

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do and what I decide to choose that's in alignment with the desires and where

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I'm going. So that's more how I've approached it.

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It's very individual. It's so

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individual. The journey just looks so different for

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everyone. That's awesome. So I'm curious.

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You mentioned a little bit about being a

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writer also. So what kind of writing.

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The writing desire probably

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came about? I've always loved writing, and even through my own

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work, I kind of channel

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messages and I share them on

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social media or just in my journal or I've always kind of

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have loved writing just for my own processes. And

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probably like yeah, I think it was maybe even ten years

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ago I started getting ideas for books, and,

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yeah, I just realized what I realized about writing is because I've always been a

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person that's like, okay, I want to follow my heart. I want to follow my

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highest desire, my highest excitement, and

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what is that? And so I noticed that writing

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has been another thing that's always kind of just stuck. Like, writing and

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energy healing are just like, they've been there for many

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years and work with kids. Those are, like, three categories

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that they're just constantly there, no matter how I

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evolve.

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I have probably five different books in the making

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right now, some halfway done, some all the way

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done. But my latest book is teaching

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meditation and mindfulness to kids

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through a story. And that actually just came

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to me. So I actually would just practice sitting and

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do creative writing, where I would just sit and let the words

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flow onto the paper. And

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that's what happened. The words flowed onto the paper,

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and it felt very

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energizing. I felt very alive. I felt really excited about

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it. But what happened with that book and this book that I'm

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actually about to launch in a few weeks, but was that I knew it wasn't

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complete, and I was like, okay,

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so a lot of it's here. I know it's not complete. What do

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I need to complete it? And the answers

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weren't coming to me, so I had to just wait almost

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two years before it came to me how to complete the

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book. So I found that writing is

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also be like that if you're

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writing from that place of letting it come to you.

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Right? What are some of the because I. Know

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that I've talked with some of. My clients about this, about just getting really

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still with yourself and present

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to try to really listen to your gut and your heart about

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where you're going, what you're doing, because the answers are

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there, right? As frustrating as it might hear to say,

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or as frustrating as it might be to hear that from coaches, well, the answer

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is there. And you're like, but I don't know the answer.

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What are some of the things that you practice, whether it be a daily

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habit or something that you do to kind of learn?

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How does one sit with themselves to really listen to what's on their

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heart? Well, I think there's a lot to

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that. Like, in the beginning, I would sit and listen, and

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I was also really disconnected from my emotions

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and my body and myself just because of past trauma and

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past experiences. So it was hard. Like, I would sit there and be

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like, I want to feel something, and I would just feel, like, numb

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or disconnected. And so I feel like it really

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depends. People can be in very different spaces when they

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start. Like, I've been in places where I've been depressed and

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in really low places, and it feels really

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impossible sometimes to connect to yourself, especially

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when you're not used to it and you haven't been doing it for a while.

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What I found is that it really is like a culmination of

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a little bit builds over time. So the way that I've

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actually seen transformation in my life and major

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transformation, is not like I sat and felt

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my feelings or got a message. Like one time just doesn't

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work. I've done it consistently

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over many, many years and it's all

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added up to then it gets easier,

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then I can hear the answers more easily.

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Then I notice shifts in my life quicker. Or I'm starting to

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see the reflections of how it's actually impacting my outer reality.

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But it's not like a one time thing. So it really just depends on

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where you're starting from. And that could be all over the board,

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but I could keep going. Does that

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answer any of your questions? I can keep talking about anyone. And how I

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know that answers so. Much

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because there's so much more

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to it, right? There is a healing process, especially

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if you have experienced some sort of significant trauma or traumas

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in your life. Because I want to be aware of the fact that sometimes it

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might not be one single significant event at one period in

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time. It could also be the accumulation of

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event, right? But there

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is a healing process that has to occur there

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before you can exactly what you're saying learn how to

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sit and listen. And it's one of those things

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where once you've experienced so I know that

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you've said a couple of times so far about

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channeling something or receiving a message. The thing

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is, we've been receiving these messages our whole

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lives, but for a really long time

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we kind of ignore them, right? We're like, oh, that's not and then

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eventually it is exactly what you're describing. Like this process

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where you have to teach yourself, okay, well, what if I listen this time?

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Or what if I act upon this feeling, this

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message I feel like I'm receiving that's saying do this or

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that. Gosh. So many important pieces in there.

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The healing process, learning how to listen and accept it.

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And again, that's why we're having this conversation of just normalizing some of these things

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that occur. Such powerful information.

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Yeah. Oh, sorry, I was going to say. I think no, go

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ahead. The other thing to the listening is like we start

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listening, right? We start tuning into our inner voice, kind

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of what maybe some of the thoughts going through our mind. Maybe we start getting

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more attuned to these things. There's also things to learn about what

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we're hearing. Because not everything you hear or

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tune into is like the divine truth.

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There's little parts in you, like wounded parts. Maybe this little

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child. And I think we all have traumas and a ton of them, and they

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don't have to be some big, horrible, traumatic event although a lot of us have

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those too. But it can be little things. Like someone

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picked on me and called me a mean name when I was five and now

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I believe that I am an idiot and I suck

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and who knows, whatever you decided to believe about yourself.

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But then it's like that little voice, that little girl

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that never got to express how she felt when so and so picked on her

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when she decided that she sucks. And

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that's the little voice that's in there saying like giving you

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advice. Sometimes we have to learn

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not only to listen, but we have to be like, what are we listening to

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here? Like this little wounded part of myself

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that had this experience that's really just needing my love and attention.

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So we really have to learn how to connect to

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our highest version of ourselves and

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let that version of ourselves be leading us. And with

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that comes a lot of showing up for all these other parts of

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ourselves that our whole lives. We didn't have the tools,

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we didn't know how to do this, we weren't taught this, so we

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weren't able to show up for them. And most likely our parents weren't

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taught this or teachers or people around us weren't taught

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these skills and these tools. So they weren't able to show up for us in

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the way we needed to process these things. And so we have to show up

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for ourselves to process all of these little parts so that we

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can actually hear our higher version

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of ourself like the version we want to be listening to. Because

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otherwise we're getting led by you can listen, but you might be getting

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led by somebody you don't want to actually be listening to.

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Yeah, no, that

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exact it's like you were taking the words out of my mouth. One of the

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things that I do when I'm working with somebody, like on their self

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belief statement and we're working on this statement of the ultimate,

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highest version of themselves that they want to

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become, is that when you're writing it

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every day. And we're trying to work on some of those subconscious

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thoughts. Really asking yourself, like, when

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new thoughts are coming in as you're writing about this future

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self, being able to ask yourself, well, is this

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my old wounded self that's talking to me right now? That's having these

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new thoughts? Or is this a thought? Because I am

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seeing my future highest self.

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It's a little tricky, right? Yeah,

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takes practice for sure. Or like what would my highest

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version of myself do in this scenario? And working

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to connect to that or connecting to these

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future versions of yourself and who you're becoming, what would she do?

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How would she show up in this? Sometimes

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I even also ask is this mine? Is this someone else's? Because sometimes

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we have this is my parent

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voice that's talking here that

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I've kind of integrated in me and

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it's become me, but this isn't actually me. So

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who is this saying this?

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Yes. Oh, man, that's so good.

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Okay, so I know I kind of went off on a little bit of a

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tangent, but you had said that the second

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part of, or the last part of the book that you were working on had

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finally come to you. Tell me a little bit about that. So do you feel

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like it's finished? Are we going to see a book soon?

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Yes. So that book is actually complete?

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Yeah. It's called my big heart. And yeah, so

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the final pieces came to me, and it's the journey of

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a little girl who feels small and invisible,

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and she's physically small because she's a child and going on

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a journey of through mindfulness and reconnecting to

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her heart and her energy field. And it incorporates that heart mass study we

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talked about in the beginning into the book. It weaves it in. She discovers the

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power of herself and how powerful she truly is, the power

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of her heart. And she just

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realizes how big she truly is in power, heart, strength.

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And yeah, it's a journey of

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her transformation. So I'm really excited about it.

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It's going to be coming out in the next couple of weeks. It'll be

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on Amazon. Oh, that's

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so amazing. Yeah. Imagine if

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we could see or if we were able to understand our

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power when we were little, when we were

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younger. So is it written

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as a book for children or just is it

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like an adult book about the little girl? So

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I say it's for children of all ages, but it is written for children. It's

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a children's picture book, has beautiful

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illustrations, and so it's just a short, easy read with

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beautiful illustrations. It's a picture book. So it is written for kids

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ages six and up. And I also think

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that adults of all ages could benefit from

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it. Sorry, children of all

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ages, which essentially is also adults.

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Amen. Because I still don't know what I want to be when I grow

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up. Do we ever

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know? And it's always evolving. It's always evolving. I don't

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think that it's like, one thing I will be forever.

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Right. I have a 20 year old. And it

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was just a couple of weeks ago where he was saying, I really just

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don't know what I want to do. He's like, yeah, I'm going to school,

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but I still don't know what I want to do. And I was like, Kid,

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none of us actually know that answer.

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Yeah, I really wish that more of this would be

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shared because as a kid, I felt the same way and I thought, Well, I

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don't know what I want to do. And then I was very determined, like, well,

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I'm going to do something that I love. I'm going to find work that I

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love. And I really wish

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that that was shared to me or would be shared to more kids

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that it's really about deciding. It's not about

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finding anything. It's about deciding, this is what I'm going to do and this

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is what I'm going to create, and learning how to

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follow your heart and how to do

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that and yeah, these little things like, oh, well, that's not really how life is.

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Like giving showing kids these things so they don't

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have these unrealistic expectations that then lead you

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feeling defeated in life when it was never necessary.

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Never. Right. I know we kind of portray

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this life that, yeah, you're going to go to school

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and you're going to know what you want to become and what you want to

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do, and that's going to be your life and you're going to love it. And

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that's just so far from the truth.

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Just does not work that way. Yeah. I am so

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excited about the book. Thank you.

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Yeah, I was just going to say I've even felt this way about how people

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talk about finding your purpose. And I almost feel like it's the same

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thing where people are like, find your purpose, and once

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you find your purpose, everything will be butterflies and rainbows and you'll

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be so fulfilled and happy and life will be wonderful. And

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I really feel like it's the same idea of, like, find your career, find

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your whatever, and it's all promoting

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something outside of you, something in the future will then make you

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happy. Like, you're not satisfied now and you're not feeling great now,

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but if you had this thing and it's

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like a thing that, how do I get this thing? You're never going to

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get this thing. No, it's all

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just yeah, I don't think that's the answer.

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It's so not. It's like these superficial checkboxes that you

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keep trying to check and then you're thinking, oh, well, if I just check the

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next box, that's going to be the box that'll make me happy. That'll that'll

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be the thing. And it's never the thing.

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It's never the thing,

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man. Yeah. And so trying to convince

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somebody younger of that is difficult. But I

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love the idea and the concept that you're describing of this

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book where a child at any age

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can read this and I really think probably just

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relate to it because it is, like you said it's through a story.

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Yeah. I'm so excited for

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that to come out so that the audience knows

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once that book is released, we will be sharing it. I'll be adding it to

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the show notes. So regardless of when you're listening, be. Sure to check

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the show notes. Yeah.

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That's an amazing achievement. Right. And just knowing

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that you took the time to listen to

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yourself and that you allowed that process to evolve and to come

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through is really powerful.

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Yeah, I definitely have a passion for

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supporting kids and getting these messages out early to

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give kids to normalize these things. Like even the topic

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we're talking about, talking. About connecting to your intuition.

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There's so many things that I want to support children.

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So yeah, it's one of my passions.

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Love that. So you said you're multi passionate. Have you worked

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with kids in the past also? Yes, I have. Yeah,

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I actually worked in education for a while, I don't know,

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many years, but a lot of years. At one point I was a school teacher,

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I taught elementary school,

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and I still have that business, an outdoor classroom for

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kids where we teach them about mindfulness and meditation.

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Mindfulness, meditation, same yoga, connecting to nature, connecting to

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themselves. I worked in the social emotional learning space,

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bringing social emotional learning skills to kids, teaching health

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awareness, leadership skills. So yeah, I worked

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with kids in a lot of different ways over the years, I've taught Mindfulness to

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kids. So yeah, I do have experience with teaching

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Mindfulness to kids. That is

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incredible. Oh man, that is so

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awesome. What a great thing to

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teach, right? Because again, I think like we were like I

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just think about this, I'm like, man, if somebody, somebody could have found

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five year old Jen and said. Hey, here's

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how you can learn how. To ground

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yourself when you are running around barefoot. Because I used to run all

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over the place. Yeah.

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Right, I think about that. I'm like, yes, that is

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exactly the message I wish I would have really been able to

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experience and understand.

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When I taught Mindfulness in second grade, for example,

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I made it normal in my classroom,

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but none of the other classrooms really,

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they didn't all do it. And so my kids would say they thought it was

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just like any other subject because I had normalized it so much. Like it's just

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as important as math or anything else. And they would write, I'd say

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like, what's your favorite subject? And so many kids would say, Mindfulness. Mindfulness. He loves

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know they loved it. And I saw some kids in the future

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when they were that I had in second grade, one that I saw

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when he was in fourth grade because I had stopped teaching. And he was like,

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you know what's so strange, Miss Jen? I'm like what? He's like my

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teachers aren't doing mindfulness.

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And I thought it was amazing because I had created the foundation that

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he thought that was completely normal, that you would

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have mindfulness, that you would talk about your feelings, that

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all of these things that I made very normal. And he thought it

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was weird that his other teachers weren't doing it. But I think

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if we start making it normal from a

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really young age, I mean, I've seen kids that have

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Sat, and I also teach laughter yoga, and

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I've seen kids sit in my yoga classes and I've seen

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kids that they're meditating at five years old,

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completely can sit still for 30 minutes.

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And it's really about how we see

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it. What I found as an adult is that it's how

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we see what's possible for the kids that they

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step into. Because I've seen adults it's

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not possible for my kid to sit still. You don't know my

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kid. No, you do not know my child.

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Or they'll be like, Children, they don't sit still.

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Children, this is not possible for children. Children cannot do these

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things. And then that is the reality.

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So that's where my fairy comes in. And I'm like,

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what do you believe to be true? Because you're creating your reality.

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So, yeah, I have seen that kids can do it and they love

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it. And I have even had kids in second grade.

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They all want to lead it. And I had where they could start teaching

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it themselves. And I had a list of like every

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single child wanted to do it, and one child wrote his name seven times. And

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I'm like, okay, you don't have enough space because everyone wants to do it.

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So they love it if you

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introduce it to them. And they share things that their

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parents don't even realize because

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their parents not all parents, but sometimes these

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conversations haven't ever happened before, so

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they might share things. I've had scenarios where I've had kids share

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things with me that in front of a parent, they're like, I didn't know that

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about you, just because it hasn't been talked

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about. Yeah,

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well and the thing is, in so many other cultures, that

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mindfulness for children is normalized.

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So, yes, it is entirely possible.

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And our children absolutely can learn this.

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And it's quite impactful.

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I think it's amazing. I hope that you realize, and I'm sure that you do,

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because of how aware you are, but

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those kids now are getting to grow up and they know,

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hey, I learned this thing way back in second grade, and I

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had no idea the impact this would have. But they're able

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to take those skills with them now forever. And

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you did that, which is pretty freaking cool. Thank

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you. Yeah, that's amazing.

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Oh, chills. It's so amazing. When I think about it.

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I think the message is like, we can all do it, right? And

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it starts with us being confident and practicing it so that

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we were able to share. Because kids are BS

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detectors, so you have to embody

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it. You can't just be like, you should sit and be quiet and do

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mindfulness while I sit over here and drink my wine and

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don't do any mindfulness at all. Like, no, they are

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not going to do it, I'm telling you. But it's more of our energy

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and our energy behind it. And if we're models of it,

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then they will join you in it. So it really starts with us as

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adults, and I think it's like all of us

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can help embody it, not only for ourselves, but for our kids

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and kids of the future. I mean, the kids are our future. Our future

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society needs this. We need this is a

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foundation, how to feel our emotions, how to connect our emotions, how

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to process things, how to communicate

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our society needs this. Yes.

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Truth on so many levels. Yeah, I did

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therapeutic foster care for several years. And it's so

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true. Kids are the biggest BS detectors, and they will call you out.

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But it's interesting too,

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exactly what you're saying. If you're already practicing

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it and you're doing it, pretty soon

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they're going to want to do it, too. And it's a whole

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experience. I'm so glad you're sharing this with us today because

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it's really powerful. Okay,

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so I want to circle back because you shared a couple of little

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blurbs of some things you've done in your past. So now I want to try

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and guess your two truths and one lie. Okay, so let me

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go back. So if I remember right, you said you

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drove a semi and crashed it into a gas

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station rope. Oh, my gosh.

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I'm laughing. So my dad was a truck driver growing up, and

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so way back in the day, because I'm very old, sometimes

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I used to be able to travel with him in his truck. And so just

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even thinking of that story in my head, I'm like, oh, this is something I

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would have done. But okay, two truths in one lie. You either

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drove a semi truck, it crashed into a gas station roof, you were on the

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front page of a newspaper for leading a laugh mob, or

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you got bit by a monkey. I'm going

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to say that you did leave a lead

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a laugh mob. Is that one true? Yes.

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Okay, well, because you mentioned something about leading

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laugh yoga. Yeah, I thought about that. I'm like, darn

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it.

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This is the funnest part of the game.

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We don't realize all the little hells that we leave along the

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way. But is this good? I love this. Okay,

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so then now I can't decide between okay, I will say this.

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Driving a semi truck is no easy.

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There's enough buttons for I don't even know what it looks like the cockpit of

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an airplane or something. It's a little wild. Or you got bit by a

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monkey. That's a tricky one because

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based on some of your experiences, I'm betting you're well

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traveled. And that just is a possibility in

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my mind. I'm going to say, I

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know this is, like, so tricky. I'm going to

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say you did not drive the semi truck.

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Incorrect book.

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This was so okay, you have to. Tell the semi truck story. Oh,

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God. Okay. I'll

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try to do a short version, I guess. So my

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friend, after college, my friend got this job

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where she was driving a pink Hummer up and down the coast, doing

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promotional marketing, going to these expos,

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promoting different brands. And I was want to do that type

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of job. I want to drive a pink Hummer up and down the coast of

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California. So anyways, I applied for the

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same type of job. I got hired for

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one. They didn't tell me what I would be driving. I get there and they're

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like, you will actually be driving this Humongous

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truck, which I had only

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driven a small little car at that point ever even driven a pickup

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truck, let alone a huge truck. It was very comical. Very

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hilarious. I had no idea what I'm doing. I don't know why I didn't just

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say, I am not doing this job. But at the time, I

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was very determined. I was right out of college. I was like, yes, I still

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get to go to all these states, and they're going to pay for me and

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my food and my hotel, and it's. Going to be great.

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Yeah. So I got in the car and

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drove to the gas station, which I didn't think about the fact

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that the truck is higher than the gas station roof.

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And I also didn't realize that there are separate

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gas stations for trucks and gas stations

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for regular people when they're regular cars.

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This is the best story. Well,

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I accidentally went to the regular people gas station

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and tried to just go in as I would, but

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hit the roof of the gas station since the truck was bigger than it.

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And I went on the side and the truck got

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stuck between the roof of the gas station.

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And I was basically tilted in the

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truck, like wedged in between. And I

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just rolled my window down and I was like, beat my heart. I

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was like, hell, can I hear the Held?

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And it was very hilarious. Even I was like, scared

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that it was going to tip over and also laughing at the same time because

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I'm like, what am I doing with myself in my life right now?

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How am I in this scenario? And people

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chucker started coming up to me and they thought I was

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in a reality TV show. They didn't think it was real.

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No one would take me seriously. They thought it was like a

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fake thing. And I was like they're like,

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okay, it's a reality TV show, whatever. And I was like,

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no, this is my real life. Can

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you get a couch?

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Oh, my God. This is the best story. That

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is the best story. Yeah. So finally they believe

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me. I'm like, no, it's real. Can you call for help?

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And so we had to get a crane. A crane had to come and

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lift the truck. And I'm like, in it? Lift me

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out and drop me back down.

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My gosh. Yeah. This is the most amazing story. It

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was really hilarious. And I did not last very long at that job.

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I quit soon after. I was like, this is

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not for me. But it was very hilarious.

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Wait, they didn't but wait, here's what's important. They didn't

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fire you? No, they didn't fire me. Wow.

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Well, the truck wasn't that damaged. It was like

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a tiny little dent on the side of the truck, like barely any damage. And

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they're like, okay, you could just keep going, not a problem,

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get going.

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Yeah. Now that you know there are two. Sides to the gas station,

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let's just keep going. Now that you've learned

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we trust you completely to get there safely.

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Well, that's the best story. Oh,

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wow. Oh my gosh, that is so

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great. Okay, thank you for that because that was so

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good. Okay, so

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I have to ask, if people want to get in touch with you, where are

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you? I'm assuming you're on social media. How can people connect?

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Yes, you can find me on social media. You can find me on my website.

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In terms of the book, the website is

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Jenniferfay.com. So, yeah,

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I'm offering a free ebook to

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everyone from the audience. So if you would like to message

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me, you can fill out your email. You'll see at the top a button

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that'll just say, like, listen now to your free audio. I'm

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also offering a free audio, a free mindfulness audio

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that goes along with the book. So you can just fill out

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your email there or you can send me a message

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on social media and just say, hey, can you send me the ebook

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and the audio and you can find me through

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my website, you'll find my social media. Or you can go to Soul infused

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Writer as well on Instagram and find

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me there. Awesome. Okay, well, I'm going to

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be sure and for the audience, I am going to be sure and share links

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so that you can connect with Jennifer on any of those platforms.

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And the free ebook, I'm kind of excited about that.

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So if there was one

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thing what's one thing you want the audience today to

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take away? I think

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something that came to me in a retreat. I was in a retreat in Mexico

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a few weeks ago and the thing that came to me was begin with pleasure.

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And I think that's what I want to share. I think

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the key we talked about kind of like, don't focus

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on I need to find my purpose or I need to find my

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dream job or I need to whatever, have this business and then I'll be happy.

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It's more what do you do?

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You begin with pleasure. That's where you start. And if you bring

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more pleasure into your day, like, you wake up, how can I begin

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my day with pleasure? Like, I'm busy AF, I have a lot

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going on, but how do you take that and be

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like, but how can I still begin with pleasure?

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How can I feel my feelings for two

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minutes? How can I sit outside in the warm sun and let the sun rays

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touch my skin and make me feel

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alive? How can you begin with

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pleasure? And even when you're deciding, what should I do in business,

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like, not deciding, like, well, I need to make money

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first. And if I make a lot of money, then I'll

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focus on the thing that I really like because then I'll have

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created financial freedom and then I can do the thing no, don't do any of

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that. What is the thing that you can begin now? With pleasure.

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What's the thing that, yes,

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I'm going to do this and it checks the

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pleasure box, too. This is going to bring me pleasure and

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maybe it'll bring me money, too. I'm making

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decisions that are aligned with what brings me the

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pleasure now, not the future.

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I love that message so much that is so in

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alignment with me just a thousand

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percent. So thank you. I think that is the

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best thing to be able to walk away with.

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Well, Jennifer, it has been an absolute pleasure. I'm

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so glad that you decided to join us today and

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I have absolutely loved having you as a guest. So I will be

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sure and share all of your contact information into the show notes,

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so be sure to check those and thank you. I hope you had

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fun, too. I definitely enjoyed all of the stories, but not just the

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stories. Even learning more about your work, it's really impactful. So

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thank you for coming on to share. Thank you. Jen, I love what you

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do and I love your heart behind everything and the messages that you're

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here to help share with women

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and messages of empowerment

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and all that you bring to support people in growing in their

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business. And, yeah, I can feel you're very heart

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centered and authentic and I'm really happy that yeah, I

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had so much fun connecting with you. Good.

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I'm so glad. All right, well, that concludes

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this episode. Thank you for joining and until

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next time, keep making shift happen.

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About the Podcast

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A Whole Lotta Shift

About your host

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Jen Ingram

Jen Ingram is a Confidence Catalyst and Business Mentor saving hustling female solopreneurs from the chains of corporate America. Her passion lies in helping women through their self awakening so they can finally break free, turn their side hustle into the business of their dreams, and live a life full of time, location and financial freedom.

Jen is a California girl at heart, now living out her dream in the Midwest, traveling, coaching female solopreneurs and sharing her own story of triumph and empowerment across speaking platforms. When she's not traveling, she enjoys spending time with her college aged son and her rescued Pit Bull.

After 20 years of various project manager and corporate trainer roles while juggling a wide array of side gigs, she has mastered the ability to help women see what they cannot see, believe they are meant for more and take aligned action to make it happen. With an MBA in Change Management, and a Health and Life Coach Certification from the Health Coach Institute, Jen is an expert at creating both the business process changes and the personal habit changes needed to finally Break UP with corporate and go all-in on your side hustle or long standing passion project.